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There is more than one path to get to where you want in your life and sometimes, the path you never thought to take, may be the path that will take you right to what you wanted life to be.

Don’t give up.  Trust and know that there are many paths to get you to where you want to be in life. Sometimes those detours can actually bring you to where you want to be.

Focus in on what you want the end result to be and then go with the flow and don’t be afraid to take a road that hasn’t been travelled before.  That road may just lead you to exactly where you want to be.


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Many times when we are going through a challenge, we feel like we are not going to get what we envisioned life to be.  It seems as if we have veered off the right track and life is taking steps backwards.  You may feel as if you are taking two steps forward and three steps back, but really you are only seeing a small part of the bigger picture that is your life.

If you could see the big picture, you would find that what you are experiencing is a part of getting you to where you want to be. You’re really not stepping backwards, you are being given a choice of where you take the challenge. If you trust and let it unfold as you create a positive vibration around the challenge, then those steps back will be steps forward.  If you trust that the Universe sees the big picture and knows the best way to get you to where you want to be, then you can just go along with what is happening and keep a positive mindset as you get through the experience.

Remember that you can only see just a small aspect of the bigger picture, but also remember that the big picture that the Universe sees is the big picture of what you envision life to be.  If you can keep a positive mindset, fine tune your thoughts and choices through that positive mindset, even in a negative or resistant feeling experience, then you will be going into the direction of the bigger picture.

Don’t give up my friend. The Universe has your back and knows the best way to get you to where you want to be. The experience you are having is a part of getting you there.  How you think, feel, and react through it all is the direction you will head to. Learn and grow through the experience and know that you are on the right path.



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All you have to do is experience life.   That is what the Universe expects from you.  So whether you are multi tasking, have five jobs, have no job, sitting on the couch, out helping others, reading a book,  or anything else, you are experiencing life. If you feel that inner tug of doing more, then that is your spirit telling you what you may want to do to grow and experience even more if you so choose.

You can experience life in any way that you see fit as long as you don’t intentional harm another mentally or physically.  That is the one Universal law about experiencing life.

So do what you love, be who you want to be, and listen to that inner nudge because no matter what you can’t get it wrong.


Just because you may be having a challenge in your life, it doesn’t mean that you have to feel negative.  Life is full of challenges.  It is a part of being human, but we have a choice in how we deal with our challenges. When we deal with them in a positive mindset, then we are choosing a certain path to take while we take care of our challenge.  And the challenge begins to take on a whole different view than before. It no longer is about feeling upset, angry, or sad.  It becomes about appreciating and feeling positive and it begins to feel like it is no longer a challenge, but growth and lessons for the spirit.

Being positive is a choice that you get to make in any experience.



No matter what is happening around you, whether it is chaos or just an agitated feeling, you can find the calm within the ‘storm.’

Take a moment to tell the mind to tell the body to relax your shoulders and your neck.  This gives the mind and the body something to do while you shift focus toward the calm that is within you. We can get tensed up in moments and to be conscious of the body and its tenseness, we can let go of the physical tension through the mind.  The mind understands that we are trying to calm and that one action of relaxing the shoulders and neck, brings a calm over the body.  Sure, you may have to do it again and again, but eventually it will become second nature.

As the mind and body are busy, find your calm within.  Take a deep breath in and let go of any tension in your exhale.  Envision going within and going deeper in thought and feeling.  Get into a calm focused state of mind, body, and spirit and feel the connection to the Universe where there is always calm, always peace.

Sit with the feelings and thoughts for a moment and keep deep breathing in and breathing out going deeper within.

The calm within the storm my friend.  Use it to create balance, calm and harmony.

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Think about your day and ask yourself if you think only of what you don’t want to happen or do you think about what you do want to happen.

When you focus on what you don’t want to happen, then that don’t want comes knocking on your door  The more you worry about what ‘might be,’ the more you are creating the very vibration of what you don’t want.

That is the moment to shift your focus from what you don’t want and focus in on what you do want.

Let’s say you have a family reunion coming up and when your mind goes to your family reunion, you think about everyone you don’t get along with.  You focus in on creating ‘what if’ scenarios of what you don’t want.  You will begin to complain and dread the reunion before it has even happened. You are creating the very vibration of what you don’t want to happen.  The more you focus and complain about it, the more you are creating that scenario.

OR you can think of your family reunion coming up and you can consciously shift your mind to what you will enjoy and who you want to see.  You can think of all the best case scenarios and the great memories that will be made.  You are now focusing on the very vibration of what you want to happen.  The more you focus and look forward to it, letting go of any and all ‘don’t wants,’ you will be creating the best case scenario and more often than not, the experience will be a positive one.

Everyone knows what they don’t want so why not know what you do want and appreciate the thought? You’ll be creating some wonderful best case scenario vibrations.



When they say that ‘love is all there is,’ that is the reality.  Any and everything that we say and do always comes back to love in some way. Even the most negative of people are helping you to see and learn about love.  A negative person may show you what the absence of love can feel like, but that too, is a part of learning about love. The contrast of the absence of love, which we call hate, makes many think more about love through the action of what another does through the absence of love.  We can get angry and hate just like the individual who began it all or we can focus in on all the love that comes about through the experience that another has created through helping, caring, kindness, and compassion.  Focus in on loving those you can help…

We can do all we can to make things better and initial frustration and anger can be motivators, but holding on to those emotions can cause the frustration and anger to simmer within. That is the moment to shift to love my friend. Use the anger for good to get things changed so that life is better for many, but then let it go and use passion and inspiration to finish the change you are wanting.

What would happen if you focused in on love in all your moments?  What would happen if instead of just grabbing your cup of coffee when they call your name, you looked at the person who made your coffee and gave them an appreciative word and smile?  What would happen if you saw another having a rough day and you chose to talk with them about it instead of avoiding them? What would happen if you were conscious of love in all you say and do no matter what the experience?

You would be creating a whole lot of love and your own world would reflect just what you sent out.

More love please!

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You are the only one responsible for your happiness or unhappiness. There is no one person or thing that can take the blame for you being unhappy.  You may say, “Oh really?  How about that guy I was in love with that broke my heart and left? He is responsible for my unhappiness!”

It can hurt when another leaves.  It can be upsetting when an experience doesn’t go as smoothly as you had hoped. But neither person or thing is to blame. You have a choice whether to be happy. They are not responsible for all of your happiness.  This isn’t to say that it doesn’t hurt to break up or that it isn’t upsetting when something doesn’t go the way we wanted it to, but to put full blame on something or someone, you are giving that person or thing, power over how you are feeling and thinking. Why give them that kind of power over your life?

Take responsibility for your own happiness no matter what you are experiencing. Focus in on all that makes you happy and release any thought or feeling of another having the power to make you feel unhappy.   Take time to be upset if you feel you need to, but do your best not to stay in that upset for too long or else it will take control of your everyday thoughts and feelings.  Give it the proper venting and ‘grieving,’ but then move forward a little each day toward what makes you feel happy.

Happiness is a choice my friend.

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Let’s say you are heading into an experience that you know you are not fond of.  Maybe you’re going to a family gathering that isn’t the most fun or maybe it is time to get your car checked out.  And normally when you go into those experiences, you have a less than positive thought and feeling before heading toward it.  It could be from a past experience or you just may not like the environment that you have been put in.

Or maybe you are about to experience something that seems scary so you are anxious.

No matter what the situation or experience, what would happen if you just assumed the best?  No matter if you have experience the family gathering a hundred times and it always turned out less than positive, what would happen if you just expected the best case scenario instead of preparing for the worst?  What if, that nasty little bully of an uncle is just like he has always been but you choose not to play his game.  What if you just said ‘game over’ in your mind and went about your business focusing on enjoying the moments.  You have to be there so why not create a positive mindset.

What would happen if you kept a positive mindset in each and every experience.  So what if it turns out different than you thought; it can be a positive, right?

You get to choose the direction my friend.

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Each and every day it is important to take the time to find calm and balance. Without balance and calm, we will feel confused and chaotic.

Take a moment to focus in on feeling calm. Tell your mind to tell the body to relax the shoulders and the neck. By doing this, you are giving the mind something to do and the body something to do. This leaves you with a clear open connection to the Universe.  In that open connection you can find calm in any experience.  You can get into the mind of calm and really focus in on the feeling of calm.

Even if you do this for just a few moments you will be taking control of any feelings of negative and anxiety by letting them go and replacing them with the ‘all is well’ thought and feeling.

The more you are in a state of calm and balance, the more life will open up to more of the same.

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You deserve a wonderful life.  You are worthy of a wonderful life. This Universe sees all of what you say and do and knows how truly wonderful you are.

Isn’t it time for you to believe it as well?  Take just a moment and really think some positive thoughts about who you are.  This isn’t ego driven in any way.  It is important to have a healthy positive view of who you are as being self empowered is a part of getting you to where you want to be in life.

The vibrations of courage,  feeling worthy, and being confident are all a part of your path of getting you to where you want to be.

Take a moment and talk to yourself as if you were your own best friend. What would your best friend say about you? Really focus in on what is positive about you.

You are worthy of all of what you desire my friend.

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You are the only one responsible for what makes you happy. If you think your happiness relies on a certain circumstance or a certain person, then you want to think again.  Sure, certain people can bring happiness to who we are, but they are not responsible for being your reason for happiness.  That is a lot of pressure to put on another and you are giving that person much of your own ‘power’ by thinking they are responsible for your happiness.

Be happy for you. Let your own thoughts and experiences create your happiness.  Let your happiness come from within and not a circumstance or person.  When you make the shift of creating your own happy, you will empower and build your own vibration to a higher vibration of happiness.

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When you are feeling unhappy, do you make excuses as to why you are unhappy? Maybe you blame it on the bad traffic or maybe you blame it on your boss’ foul mood, or maybe you blame it on the weather, others, or life itself.

Making excuses only prolongs your unhappiness.  You and only you are responsible for your happiness. No person, place, or thing is causing unhappiness; it is your own thoughts and feelings that are creating being unhappy.

What would happen if you chose to be happy in each moment?  What would happen if you were having a challenge, yet you were able to appreciate the moments?  What would happen if you didn’t blame some one or some thing on you being unhappy.

What if you chose to be happy in all your moments?  You would be happy.

Don’t wait on happiness thinking that you will only find that happiness if you have enough money, or have the perfect soul mate, or have the perfect job.  You can be happy now.  You can enjoy and appreciate now and be even happier when your outcome comes out as you had hoped.

No ifs, ands, or buts; you can be happy without the excuses. Take responsibility for your own happiness.


In this day, what have you appreciated and felt grateful for? Have you made the effort to see the positive or have you just been waiting for it to come to you?

It begins with you.  You have to make the effort to change your perception of your day and seek out what made you feel good, feel positive, and gave you that sense of gratitude. You are the one responsible for your happiness. Not your job, not someone else, not your boyfriend or girlfriend, not your spouse; only you.

Seek out the positive in your daily moments and focus in on how good your moments were even if there were a few negatives. Take your thought and focus to what you love about life, what you enjoy seeing and what you enjoy feeling.

In this day, be in the present moment. No need to live in the past or worrying about the future. Focus on today and enjoy your moments.

The more you enjoy life, the more joy filled experiences will come into your life.

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Change is inevitable. It is a part of being a human being.  Change happens in every day.  Even if we have a routine of every day, the routine changes because of our thoughts and our moods of a given day.

The best you can do about change is embrace it. Instead of trying to keep it from happening or being upset that it is happening, we can accept change itself and embrace it instead of fighting against it.

How you experience change is up to you. You can fear it or you can embrace it knowing that it is taking you to a better more positive outcome.

It is all in how you look at it. Fear change will bring you more to fear in the form of change and embracing change will bring you more to embrace and feel positive in the form of change.

You control the flow of life my friend.

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Even in life’s challenges, you can create a positive mindset.  All you have to do is make a conscious choice.

If you are having the worst of the worst happening, you can deal with it in any way you choose to deal with it.  You can let the mind wander to the habitual thought of feeling upset and negative or you can take control and shift your focus to what is positive in the moment while dealing with the challenge.

What if you can’t find a positive?  Then focus in on the thought that just because you can’t see the positive, doesn’t mean there isn’t a positive.  There is always a positive in everything we experience in life.

It has, and always be, your choice in where you take your thoughts and feelings.  No experience, no person, no thing is responsible for how you are thinking and feeling.

Be conscious my friend…


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Have you ever been in a place in life that you have no idea what the future holds?  You know of your past and you know what you are experiencing in the present, but do you know where you are going in the future?

You can begin creating your future in this present moment.  You can think about where you want to be in the future.  You can begin to mold it and build it within your own mind and heart.  Live in the present moment, but do take moments to envision your future.

When you envision your future, you truly don’t have to know what exactly you want to do or be.  You can think of how you want to feel in the future without making any plans about the rest of it.  How do you want to feel in your future?  Do you want to feel abundant, safe, loved? Then as you envision your future, walk through a day that you would love to experience with all the feelings you wanted for that future.  Envision it in your today moments and get in a feeling that it is happening right now.  Envision as if it is happening right now.  When you envision the future as being a far away thought then it will continue to be that far away thought, but if you envision your future in the present of the now, then you  are emitting a vibration that says, “I am seeing this now so that the future will unfold to just that.”

You can create the path of your future in this moment now. Send only positive thoughts to the future and you will be creating a path that will unfold before your eyes.

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When challenges come about, remind yourself that  it is only temporary no matter how it may feel.  You will get through it.  It may be challenging,  but think of all you have to be grateful for as you go through the challenge. You can find gratitude and in gratitude, you are opening up a path to having more to be grateful for.

Be grateful for what you do have in life that you may take for granted; electricity, plumbing, ovens, refrigerators, and all those things we have every single day that we just expect to be there.

Be grateful my friend. Think of all those modern conveniences that you have and how easy they can make life. There is someone in this world that doesn’t have it as good as you do.  Give your own life appreciation for the ordinary that you depend on each day.

Take a moment to be grateful…

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There is this place that you can get to when you are deep in meditation.  It is the place where you no longer see the experiences of your past and future. You see nothing.  You get into a place where you let your normal thought chatter just float on by and just feel the stillness and love in that moment of nothingness and clarity.  And really, there is something there; it truly isn’t nothingness, but it is like a nice soft breeze on a summer day or a cup of tea on a winter day.  All is there yet nothing…

Now what you can’t seem to focus and let the thoughts go by?  What if you don’t seem to have the time to get to the place within that you want and need to get to? Meditation takes a good amount of practice and learning to train your thoughts.

What can you do if you just can’t seem to get there?

You find a way that gives you that same feeling or at least the same kind of vibration as meditation. What do you love to do that gives you a zen like feeling as you do it?  Maybe taking a walk in nature is one of your ways to wind down after a long day.  Or maybe you love to sit down with a good book and that brings about a strong calm over you.

Whatever you love to do that instills that calm feeling and thought within, is like a ‘walking’ meditation. You get in the same kind of zone and it can be just as rewarding when you are conscious of it.

Find something you love to do that brings a calm, balance, and quiet to your life.  It puts your mind chatter on hold and takes you to a positive place within.  Maybe sewing or knitting puts you in the zone.  Or maybe watching a movie puts you in the zone.  Or maybe drawing or painting puts you in the zone.

There is more than one way in anything we do in life and that includes meditation.



We have much going on in the world today.  It can be challenging to not think of all that is happening in the world and where it will lead.

You know, you can think about it, deal with it in the best way you know how, yet still find the good and positive in the day and in the world.

Make a pact with yourself.  For every story that you read that puts others and the world in a negative light, you have to find another story that puts others and the world in a positive light. Make sure to keep a balance of what you see, read, hear, and feel.

You could just read the positive stories if you wanted to, but if you don’t and you get caught up in all that is happening that seems worrisome and fearful, then please, read something that makes you feel you have faith in humanity and this beautiful world.

Yes, we all have to deal with negative feeling challenges in life, but we can deal with them in a better positive mindset instead of being pulled down to a lower negative vibration.

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