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The past is gone.  You really don’t have to relive it in your mind over and over again. The past has created your growth and lessons.  It has created a vibration that you can fine tune and then let go of.

Would of, could of, should of…let it go…it’s over. Begin new thoughts in this day. Keep focus on your present. Create positive thought around your moments and let go of what the past represented.

Forgive yourself and forgive others…just let it go.


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In all that you experience in your day, keep in mind and heart ‘balance.’  Keep your mindset positive and stay in a balanced frame of mind as you go about your day.

If an experience comes up that is challenging, bring your thought to balancing all of who you are from the mind to the body to the spirit.

Just by keeping the thought of balance in your moments, you will be reminding the body, mind, and spirit that stay centered is the best way to experience the every day.

Balance within…


gentle-white-flowers-There are times where we just need to vent.  We cry, we scream, or we are feeling frustration or anger. This isn’t a bad thing when it comes to creating a positive thought.  You see, some of the emotions that seem negative, are actually great ways to catapulting us into a better thought and feeling.

We need to vent so that we can let go and release the negative vibration that feel stored up within.

It is when we hold onto the vibrations of fear, frustration, anger, or sadness, that can create a hold pattern within us and we don’t want to release how we are feeling.

Think about where your emotions are coming from. Are they from a place that you can vent and then move to a better more positive thought and feeling?  Or are you reliving those feelings and thoughts and holding on tight to them?

Use venting to let the negative emotion and thought go. Once the vent is done, then step forward in a better more positive place. Don’t keep dwelling on the negative vibrations and let the vent be a part of opening up to what the next step can be.

Then move on and create a better feeling vibration.


How often do you look at another and their life and assume that you know what they are going through just by how they look or act?

Or how often do others look at your life and assume they know exactly what your life is  or why you act the way you do?

As humans, we tend to compare everyone to our own life. We assume that what another is going through is just what we have gone through which means that we have a right to help without our advice and suggestions.

No one person ever goes through the exact life experience in the same way another does. Some experiences may be similar, but the people, the places, and everything around it is different to each person.  So when another thinks they know all about your life or you think you know how another is experiencing, take a step back for a moment.

Recognize that their experience isn’t just like yours.  Your suggestions or advice may help them, but truly you haven’t been through their exact experience as they are different people, different surroundings, and different thoughts than your experience.

The best thing to say and do is to let another know you may have some suggestions that could help.  And if another is judging your life based on one event, let them know that you are working it out and you appreciate their thoughts.  Ask them if they want to help in some way, let them know listening is helpful as well as any other thoughts they might have.

Keep in mind and heart that you are in one chapter of your life’s story just as others are in one chapter in their life’s story. Don’t judge a person by the chapter they are in. They have many chapters to go just as you do.

Be supportive and encourage each and every person.  You may help them to get on their next chapter.  Don’t be a villain or the gossip in their story; be the one that helped them with listening, acceptance, and understanding.






Where you are in life right now, is but one blip on your life story.  Whether it is a positive or a negative time in your life, just remember that it is one chapter out of your whole life story book.

Remember this when you see others and their lives. If they are having a challenging time or making choices that are creating even more challenge in their lives, they are just on one chapter of their book of life. Their experiences right now are helping them to create a direction to ‘be’ in their life.  The chapter can change or it can stay the same, but either way it is a new chapter.

We all get past each chapter in our life. It is all the chapters together that create the full story of what our life is.

Do your best not to judge another by the chapter they are on in life. It isn’t their full story.  Everyone has a chapter they would like to pass up and move on to the next chapter.  It will happen…

Choose a positive thought and feeling as a theme for your life story.


There is always an open door of opportunity and possibility.   And it is in your own thought that the door will be shown to you…or not.

It begins with  your belief. When you doubt, fear, and worry, and feel you have no where to turn or don’t have answers; that is the moment where you have a choice. You can succumb to all the resistant feeling thoughts that bring to you the same kind of vibration in another way OR you can know and trust, without a doubt, that there is an open door of opportunity and possibility, and it will reveal itself when you are ready for the reveal.

In every thought you have, in every feeling you have, in every reaction you have, do your best to create a positive vibration within.  Even in times of challenge, you can still remember that there is always an open door to where you want to be.

When you get into that kind of mindset, you will be creating vibrations that go out into the Universe and the Universe sends back to you just what you sent to it.  Positive vibrations equals positive experiences, my friend.

Take a moment to ask yourself what do you believe and what are you sending out?  Being conscious of your thought and changing that thought if need be, will take you to where you want to be. Practice makes perfect!

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You can only be pushed to do something if you are willing to be pushed.

There are times where someone needs something for you to do and that someone can be urgent and insisting about what they need or want. This can make you feel that uncomfortable resistant pushing thought and feeling that signals you don’t like that feeling and thought.

Yet, in all we think, say, or do; we always have a choice. If another is pushing, you have a choice to feel pushed or you can let go of the pushing vibration and  listen to what they may have to say but make a conscious effort to let go of the resistant vibration attached to what they need or want.

That nagging pushing vibration is a feeling like no other. Sometimes we feel like pushing against it, but by pushing against it we are creating more resistance.

Why not hear them out, let them know what you plan on doing or saying, and then let go of that push against vibration.  They may bring it up time and time again, but you have the choice of how you think and feel.

Resolve it without a pushing vibration.

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Do you trust that every experience is leading you to the best for your life?  Or do you just roll with the punches and wait for the other shoe to drop?

When we are experiencing life, it is essential to appreciate and create positive thoughts and moments as life is rolling along.  And when a less than positive experiences comes forward, that is the moment where we can really do our best to appreciate and create a more positive attitude in those less than positive moments.

You don’t ignore the negative experience, but you lift your vibrations to a better feeling thought, feeling, and reaction as you get through the experience. Get into the frame of mind of trusting that whatever the experience is, it is taking you to where you want to be and all you have to do is keep a strong positive focus through it all.

So, do you trust that any and every experience is taking you to the best for your life? Do you believe that all is well and will be well no matter what the experience?

If not, then that is where you want to inner work toward getting into that frame of mind and heart.

Build a positive foundation in all you say and do.  You will see the results you are looking for and life will follow your lead.

The Universe is bringing you the best that works for your life.

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We always seem to know what we don’t want in life, but we don’t always know what we do want.  If you’re not sure of what you want life to be, ask yourself how you would like your life to feel.  Go through a future day in your mind of how you want to feel in your future days.  Then bring that thought into your present moment and think of how good it feels to feel in that feeling now.

Just because you’re not sure of what you want in life, it doesn’t mean that you can’t envision your future. Just envision how you want to feel whether it is a feeling of protection or a feeling of being abundant or both.  As you envision and shift your focus to feeling that feeling in your moments now, you will be building the foundation of a strong positive future full of how you want to feel.


Sometimes, when we are envision what we want our life to be, we can get stuck on the details of it all instead of seeing the bigger picture.

The Universe always has the bigger picture in mind. It knows the best way to get you to where you want to be so there may be a few experiences that happen that seem like they are taking you away from what you want when, in reality, they are a part of getting you to where you want to be.

Do your best not to get so wrapped up in every little detail.  Know and trust the Universe and the experiences that you have. Know and trust that the Universe knows the best way to get you there.

You are being taken care of my friend.  Do the best you can but remember that there is a big Universe on your side and taking you to the best for your life.  You will get to where you want to be…let it unfold.

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Being positive and shifting to a more positive thought, can be a challenge at times.  It sounds much easier than it actually is, doesn’t it?  Change your thoughts, change your life.

The inner work is what gets you to being in a mindset that benefits your life.  It begins with just one positive thought.

Just for today, create a positive thought that you can feel through out your day.  Maybe it is about how beautiful the sky is or maybe how much you appreciate a modern convenience.  Each time you see or think of your positive focus,  dwell on what it makes you feel within.  Let’s say you appreciate the beautiful blue sky as your focus.  Each time you remember to appreciate, bring another aspect of why you love that blue sky.  Keep building and building your appreciation as you think of more reasons as to why you love the feel of the blue sky.

By doing so, you are creating stepping stones that build into a positive strong solid foundation of appreciation and that appreciation will spread out over all aspects of your life and bring so much more in return.

Just begin with one positive thought…


Everyone has something or someone, within their mind and heart, that brings about that happy feeling within.  It might be a favorite place or a favorite experience.  It might be a candle scent or a favorite hobby. Everyone has something that gives them a smile and a positive thought.

When you are having a day that feels less than positive, take a moment to find that something that brings you that happy feeling within.  Just for a few moments, think and feel that happiness and build that feeling within.  Hold the thought and feeling as long as you can and build, build, build the feeling of happiness.

If you do this each and every day, you will be sending out positive vibrations that will come back to you in some way, shape, or form.  Just for a few moments a day.

What brings you happiness?  What can you do to experience that feeling each and every day?  How many ‘somethings’ can you think of that give you that feeling within?

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Choices.  You have many choices.  Some make choices for you or you make choices for others. Sometimes we don’t have control of all the choices around us, but there is one choice that we have at all times.  That is the choice of thought.

No matter who is angry, no matter who is negative, no matter who is doubting, no matter, no matter.  No matter what, you always have a choice where you take your own thoughts.  If another is angry, you don’t have to become angry too. You can choose to shift focus to a better feeling positive thought.

If someone is said, you don’t have to be sad. You can deal with the experience in the best way that you know how, yet come from a place of joy or being positive.

So when it comes down to life, it doesn’t matter what is around you; you always can choose where your mind goes and that choice will take you in a direction.

What direction do you want to go to? It’s your choice…


When you are in a mindset of appreciation, you are opening up your life to more appreciation that comes flooding in.  No matter how your day is going, whether it feels negative or positive, you can always find something to appreciate and that appreciation brings about higher positive thoughts and feelings.  And those higher thoughts and feelings will unfold a life full of love, abundance, and appreciation.

All that from focusing on what you appreciate…

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How you treat others is how you will be treated.  Ask yourself how kind you are to others or how giving you are to others.  Think about how you talk with others.  And then…ask yourself if you treat yourself as well as you do others?

If a friend was badmouthing all about how she feels about herself, you would interject and tell her/him that they are just wonderful. You’d tell them they don’t need to degrade themselves as they have wonderful qualities.  You’d lift them up with your thoughts and feelings.

Yet when you think about yourself, you may not treat yourself as well as you do your friends. If you are badmouthing yourself, you don’t try to stop yourself from being critical.

Do you treat yourself like you would a friend?  Don’t let your small thoughts about yourself become a habit. Raise your thoughts about who you are and find your self worth and confidence.  Be your own best friend when thinking about who you are.

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There are times where an experience can feel that it is just the end of life.  It feels so final and isn’t what we wanted our life to be. Or we have an experience that seems to drag on and feel more negative by the moment.

In those times it is important to remember ‘this too will pass’ as life is an ever changing experience. Even if we have a day that feels like the day before, it truly has changed.  We don’t have the very same experiences every day or the same exact thoughts. Each day can be similar but each are unique.

Change is what life is about.  Change is what spurs us to move forward.  It teaches us to let go of the old and embrace the new. Change is actually an important part of experiencing life. And getting used to it, looking forward to it; will help you to go with the flow of where your life heads.  Couple that with appreciation of your moments and creating a positive thought to your life experience, then you will be creating positive change.

Your experience right now is not the end.  It is merely yet another experience we can learn and grow from.

How you experience is the direction you will head.  And the direction is created by your thoughts and feelings.

See a strong positive future. See and appreciate your now moments.  Your life ends cycles and begins new cycles each and every day. Embrace change…

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So what you have envisioned for what you want life to be, hasn’t come about yet?  The more you focus on the resistant thought of impatience, the more you will have to be impatient about.

The best thing that you can do for your life is to live and appreciate your present moments. Those vibrations bring about a strong everyday focus on creating appreciation.  Then let the rest go. Envision what you desire, but let go of how you think it will come to you.  Envision only that end result and stop wondering how.

Everyday vibrations create the inner foundation of what you want.  If your vibrations are steeped in fear, doubts, impatience, or anxiety, then you are creating an inner foundation of mistrust and worry.

You want your life to be built on a solid foundation.  Creating and focusing on the positive of your days will help to build a foundation that is positively strong and ready to unfold what you envision life to be.

Let go of the don’t wants that build a shaky foundation; you want a strong positive solid foundation of  life.

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Feeling out of sorts? Shift your focus to what makes you feel good.

Feeling negative?  Shift your focus to what makes you feel positive.

Feeling bad about yourself?  Shift your focus to what you love about you.

Feeling like others judge you?  Shift your focus to remembering that what another thinks of you is none of your business.

Feeling unloved? Shift your focus toward what you love in life that makes you feel good about yourself.

Feeling unappreciated? Shift your focus to what you appreciate that is in your life and include yourself in that appreciation.

As you can see, there is an answer for all that you may be feeling. If you are feeling good, then continue to feel good, but if you are feeling resistant to feeling good, then that is the time to shift focus and create a positive thought and feeling.

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Do you have someone who you are close to that has a negative attitude that brings down all who are around them?  And does their ‘vibration’ bring you down at times as well?

You do have a choice in how you think, feel, and react when it comes to another and their mood. Our first inclination is to come down to the level of vibration that the negative attitude is at. This is what immediately brings our own vibration down. And to fight against the vibration by getting upset with the negative person, only brings your vibration down further.  It’s like shooting yourself in the foot.

When another is negative, you have a choice right then and there.  You can bring your thought to their negative level or you can, within your mind, let go and release their attitude and thoughts, and move forward to a better feeling positive vibration.  They can continue to be in the mood they are in if they want.  No need to be angry at them as this just brings you to their level of vibration.

Take some deep breaths in and in the exhale breathe out their bad mood from your mind and heart. Then adjust your vibration to a more positive better feeling. Step away for a moment so that you can seek out an appreciative thought in your day. Shift your focus over and over again, until you are able to shift away from the bad mood of another.

You see, joyful attitudes can be contagious just as much as a negative attitude can be.  Which one makes you feel more positive?

Let your mood become contagious!


Ever have a day where everything seems to go wrong?  Did you know that it doesn’t have to be that way?

The reason why a day can continue to be ‘off’ could be because you are expecting it to be that way.  One thing goes array and you may think, “Great, a bad moment which means a bad day.”

You can change that.  All you have to do when you have a moment that feels less than positive, just reset in your mind. Just think, “Begin again. It is just one moment…”

As you take on the attitude that the day doesn’t have to rule you because of one or two negative moments, then you are being conscious of your thought and taking control of the rest of the day.

Just begin again…

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