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If you blurt out something that is hurtful to another person, no matter if you are wrong or right it isn’t coming from within your inner self. The inner self is always loving and never reprimands. Especially if those hurtful words are to yourself. Send only love and encouragement to yourself and others and if it is even remotely hurtful…keep silent and send positive vibrations to counter the experience.
And if someone else is the one with the hurtful words to you, they are coming from the human ego part of who they are and it is your choice whether to ‘take in’ what they have to say but if you do it will affect your vibration as well. Understand and know where it is coming from.
Part of the human experience is all about contrast and observing and seeing the contrast and deciding what we will do with it. When we’ve been holding something in and all of a sudden explode and say mean hurtful things we are in fact hurting ourselves as well as the other person’s feelings. It’s best to diffuse the hurt bomb before it comes to a blow up. You see you have the choice of your reactions.
You have the choose to say, “I’m going to release this feeling.” instead of holding it in and letting it build. When I say release, it doesn’t mean to let out a huge tirade. When I say let go and release I mean let go of the feeling that is attached to the reaction and realize that we are all human. We can observe, step aside from, and experience in a calm centered nature knowing it is just a passing feeling — showing us which direction to go in our own thoughts.
Find the deeper meaning behind why you want something. Find the essence of what you want. So you may want money or a new career or relationship, but what is the essence of what you really want? Do you want money because you want a sense of security or maybe a relationship because you want to feel loved? What is the higher vibration that you want to experience more often? If it is feeling loved, then begin to imagine what it feels like. Find the feelings in something you may already experience in your life so that you can understand and know what it feels like. Imagine the essence of what it is that you want and THAT is what will bring it into your life.
That’s when life changed for Lee and I many years ago. We had wanted life to change. We had wanted to love what we do, have enough money to do it, and wanted life to be full of ease and joy. We weren’t expecting life to necessarily be perfect–meaning without any contrast–because contrast is needed in order to learn, grow, expand, and experience consciousness. But we wanted it to happen with ease and joy.
We wanted to wake up every morning with a spring in our step and just love to live. So we changed our ways. We stopped focusing on what we lacked at the time and began to wake up with that spring in our step and keep checking in to make sure we were feeling and thinking the essence of what we wanted; joy, helping others to become who they were, the financial means to do just that, and feeling grateful for all the Universe was providing and would provide as the pieces of the puzzle fit together.
So here we are today. Finding the essence, focusing on all the good in our life and not on what was missing, and living and experiencing those thoughts and feelings put us right where we had envisioned. And it continues because we are never done creating but the essence of what we wanted life to be is there. Happy sigh…life.
Sometimes obstacles can make you more resolute about your goals, but if there are too many doors that seem to close or you are feeling tired and not excited about your goals this is the time to reevaluate either the goal or the way you are trying to achieve it.
Maybe you need to look for something else; something you have wanted to do in your life. If you have to push too hard, you are providing resistant vibrations to what you want. When you step back and take a breath you will get a clearer picture of what should be done.
Been there, done that. 
When I began to realize that life wasn’t about pushing things into existence and instead just letting a flow happen, then it was one more piece of my puzzle in life. As I began to shift to more positive thoughts and step away from conflicting thoughts and feelings, I was able to relax and see that everything I was going through was a part of a bigger picture.
And as I stop providing resistant vibrations; worrying, fear, doubts then things began to fall into place. When I moved toward what I loved and stopped trying so hard to push that square peg into a round hole, then new ‘holes’ began to pop up that fit perfectly as I continued to relax and ‘be’ all the while fine tuning my goals. Ahhh…ease.
Look at your life as a movie that you are creating. You are the director and the producer and the clearer image you have, the better the movie will look and feel. But if you take colored markers and mark all over the images of your movie, it is going to be hard to get clear and watch your movie unfold. Clear out the cobwebs and create a focus that is clear of all the negative voices that tell you it isn’t your movie. It is your movie…put the markers away (or at least use them for creating flowers!) and see a beautiful movie full of unlimited possibilities unfold.
Are you using your markers to create an abstract piece of art of life OR are you using them to enhance your beautiful picture giving them a touch of beauty here and there? It’s your choice…I’m going to use my markers to frame my movie of life; not keep it hidden behind a whole lot of marks. How about you?
So many mask their fear. It comes in the form of blaming, resentment, envy, thoughts of failure, not taking responsibility for life. Fear masks itself as logical reasons for why something can’t be done. In order to rid yourself of fear, shine light on it. Find ways that will help you get beyond the mask of fear. Fear is just a word until you blow life into it. What is there to be afraid of?
As far as I’m concerned fear is the biggest four letter curse word there is. It even starts with ‘F’. It steals and takes away from the human experience. Fear is different than caution. As humans we must have a natural caution for our survival; don’t put your hand in the fire, don’t run out in the road are a few examples. But fear is completely different. Fear creates this vibration that makes you feel uneasy and anxious about things that may or may not happen.
Fear robs you of feeling positive and of enjoying life. If you step away from fear and live each day as it comes not worrying about the ‘what ifs’ and envisioning the best case scenario, you will change a vibration within you and life will begin to flow into an easier and less stressful place. Don’t let fear, worry, or doubt rob you of life. Life is meant to be lived and enjoyed.
So many feel that they have to participate in the normal world way of thinking. They are afraid that they are going to be out of touch with reality if they start listening and living from ‘within.’ When you live from within, you have a viable voice that directs you in the best direction possible. When you live from ‘within’ things become smoother, calmer, and abundant. It is when we listen to all the opinions of what others think is the normal way that we head off track from who we really are. Live what feels good for you and THAT is YOUR normal not the normal that others have labeled.
As long as you have a physical body and a sound mind, you will never be out of touch with the physical…believe me! Start living from the inner self. It will direct you where you want to go, and all through joy.
Someone once said to me, “You can’t live in a Pollyanna world, ya know!” I asked, “What’s wrong with a Pollyanna world? It’s so full of positivity!” LOL!
When you create your life from your inner self and let life have a nice steady flow of positive thoughts and feelings, there is a balance that is created. This balance will feel nice and steady and good. And those feelings and thoughts are an indication that you are using the right tools to create the results that you desire.
Find the flow of positive vibrations within you. Sometimes it may seem that they elude you but they haven’t. Your own focus through your logical mind has created an illusion of worry and negativity, but when you are able to change your focus to what feels good and makes you feel positive then you are doing something about the logical mind and its worry. You are making an effort to change your own repetitive thought patterns. When you make that effort, you are aligning with higher vibrations that will bring to you higher, more positive experiences in your life. It’s a win-win situation when you think positive.
Did you know that when you send out positive vibrations to someone who makes you feel negative that you will no longer be hurt by their negative vibrations? If there is someone, or an experience in your life that makes you feel scared, your feelings are hurt, or you feel left out, if you send out positive loving vibrations and let go of all that is feeling negative, it will cause a change within you. And the negative person or thing will no longer affect you.
Write the above paragraph and put it where you can see it every day. Get it into your mind that sending positive vibrations to every experience in your life will benefit not only others, but you as well. If you did this with everything, even for those seemingly negative people and experiences, your life will be full of positive experiences…more than you ever thought was possible. Doesn’t that sound wonderful? Try it…you’ll never want to go back to the old way of thought!
When you are worried or scared, that is the time to go within and connect to that place within you that is calm and at peace.
You see, when you were a child there was always something there to help encourage you and take away your worry or fears. Maybe a relative or maybe a favorite toy, but it was most likely something that was outside yourself. Wouldn’t it have been wonderful to have been told that to wipe away any fears or worries to just relax, breathe deep, and sit still ‘within’ yourself where safety, security, and love reside? And that the Universe is a gentle caring Universe and it sits right within you? Go inside to find your ‘peace of heart’…that is where loves dwells. It doesn’t dwell in your outer world. It dwells in your inner world.
You don’t have to look outside yourself to find the peace and calm you desire. You don’t have to call your mom or call a friend all freaked out about what is happening in your life. You can find your calm within you. That is where it is. You will find all you need to know from the Universe that is sitting right within your heart. Feel it, know it, and believe it. There’s nothing wrong with venting to your friends and family but always remember that the true peace of mind that you are looking for is right within you.
When you seek positive vibrations did you know that you are already increasing your vibration and the positive vibration has a definite affect on your self image? And as you change your own self image from within, things in your physical life that were a part of your old way of thinking will fall away from your life. Sometimes you may even lose something that you own that is a symbol of your old way of thinking which is your way of letting go of the old. This is one amazing Universe and how it all fits perfectly together each and every experience.
I have a story about when things began to fall away in my life and how my life completely changed to a bigger, brighter way of life that I had expected (but didn’t know exactly how it was going to happen).
We lived in southern California and we loved our two homes there. We lived up in the mountains about two hours away from Los Angeles. Lee and I were happy but felt as if there was something better in store. I began to find problems in the house; plumbing, electricity mishaps, and it was so shady there was no sun that could ever be seen. It felt cold and damp all the time.
I decided then and there I wanted to live in a place that didn’t make me feel that way. I envisioned a new beautiful home and a beautiful town to live in. I was grateful for all I currently had but was looking forward to how it would change for us. I was a costume designer at the time and working endlessly for many productions. There was one particular production I wasn’t too keen about working on and for me it was slated to begin work at the end of October. I had been visualizing a complete sweep of ease in all of it and continued enjoying and experiencing life.
My oldest brother and I are very close. He called one morning to tell me that his wife had been in a horse accident and she was in a coma. Two weeks later she passed on so Lee, my mom, Peanut, and I drove to Colorado to attend her funeral. On our way back the phone rang and it was my oldest daughter. There were wildfires sweeping through our mountains and she was worried. We told her, my dad, and our sons to go to a hotel where we would meet them before evacuation began. I asked her to grab Peanut’s mermaid costume and a box of photos I had put together a few days earlier ‘just in case’ we needed to grab pictures quick. I had listened to my inner voice when I was told to box up my favorite photos not knowing why.
Yes, we all met up and sat and watched the news. We had an unusual fireplace in our house and Lee and I both saw our fireplace on the news…only the fireplace…both houses had burned to the ground. Believe me, this sounds like a sad story but it isn’t. There are some things that came out of the fire that were amazing and I look back now and realize I experienced a sweep of everything to bring us to where we are now.
My sewing machines were burnt in the fire so I wasn’t able to do the production job I had not been looking forward to. We were insured and even though we couldn’t get back all of ‘the stuff’ we were all fine AND I had my treasured photos. The fire is what got us to thinking about where we really wanted to live and we are now in our dream home and dream place. I can’t tell you the amount of positive experience that came out of that fire for our lives. Yes, I would have preferred it to be less fiery (hee hee) but we had a clean sweep and we didn’t even have to move furniture when we came to Oregon.
Looking back, I see I had gotten everything I envisioned…everything…and even better than I could have imagined. So sometimes, you may lose something in the process but remember that as long as you keep your vision it will come and it will be as is or even better. When something falls away this is usually a sign that things are moving just as they should for you. Don’t question the ‘how’ with the Universe, just keep envisioning and trust knowing it will all come to you in a way that is best for you.
How can you move away from conflict? By changing within yourself. When you don’t become a part of the arguments or the highly powered issues that make you feel uncomfortable, and reach for a higher positive vibration instead, you will move on from the conflict. This doesn’t mean you deny and avoid the conflict. It means you are taking action within to change your own reactions to the conflict and by finding that calm, your vibrations will create the calm over time. The Universe will show you answers once you have moved into a calmer or positive state of mind.
I love getting together with family. They are so much fun, but I will say that at times the room can get pretty heated when it comes to politics and different opinions and views. So what do I do? Always in a polite way I become quiet and go within myself to see how I am feeling about it all. If it is making me feel uncomfortable then I ‘reboot’ within and stay centered, stepping away from the loud opinions.
I smile and excuse myself from the group. Everyone is used to it now. I guess I must get a look on my face that says, “I’m not saying a word, allow, allow, but I’m taking myself elsewhere.” I immediately feel a release from all that was being built in vibrations by others and when that release comes about I know it hasn’t affected my own vibration. Often times the conversation changes once I ‘let go’ of the conflict that I see or I find a wonderful conversation with another friend or family but I don’t hold on to the feelings and thoughts of the conflict of others.
Lee has a saying when everyone gets hyped up on their opinions and I begin to make the face and steer clear. He says very loudly, “If Mama isn’t happy…nobody is happy!” LOL
Do you know why the Universe at times puts others into your life? Because it is easier to see things in others that you can’t see in yourself. The Universe is teaching you something about who you are by showing you someone that may be exhibiting what you should be working on in yourself. You wouldn’t focus on what someone’s personality or life was if a part of you didn’t need to work on it yourself in some way. This doesn’t mean that you are the exact copy of what they show, but there is a part of you that is either victim or bully or what label you may think. Or maybe it is to teach you acceptance and allowance.
I don’t take blame every time I see someone who talks in a rude manner to me. I don’t say, “Oh my…is THAT me? Is THAT what I am reflecting?” If someone is having a bad day and they take it out on me, I will first step aside and observe from a neutral ground. It takes just a few seconds. I ask myself, “What is reflecting in me here?” If I’ve been feeling agitated then I know what I need to adjust, but if I feel great then I realize it is a reflection of some kind of lesson of experience. Maybe to give a kind word to the person or to just allow.
It is a great mental exercise to stay balanced and keep your positive vibrations in a steady flow. IF you act as they do you are looking at a vibration that will continue to come back again and again until you have resolved it within your own experience. I for one love to say at the end of a day, “I was kinder than necessary today.”
Imagination is a wonderful thing. You can create worlds, realities, and just about anything. You even use your imagination to create fear. Maybe worrying that you won’t get a job or worrying that someone might leave you. But it is much better to use your imagination to create beautiful, loving pictures of your life. Your imagination is powerful. It is what creates your reality.
Have you ever noticed that when you really worry about something it just builds and builds and you create all these different kinds of negative scenarios that could or could not happen? Your imagination goes wild and you freak out and build even more vibrations of all that ‘could be?’ Now…can you imagine what would happen if when you started to worry about something you turned it all around and began to imagine what could happen (that is the best case scenario) instead of the worst case scenario? Now imagine bigger and bigger about how the best could happen? You see…both ways…you are creating…why not create something that feels good and shifts you away from the worry and fear? How about finding a calm and serene place and getting excited about the best scenarios and creating a positive present and future? Just sayin’.
Did you know that if every night before you went to bed you mentally thought about all the good things that you let happen in your life for the day that you will be able to experience even more good in your life? When you think about all that you allowed to flow in, you will experience a more steady and positive flow.
It’s one of my last thoughts before I fall asleep. I create the positive thought of what went wonderful in the day and if it didn’t go exactly as I thought, I think about what the outcome might be that is even better; because, the Universe always knows what is the best way to go about what you desire, step by step, thought by thought, trusting all the while, keeping focus, and keeping the positive vibration flow nice and steady. I love falling asleep to the lull of positive vibrations, don’t you?!
People are changing and they are changing fast. New ideas and knowledge are fast and furious. If you try to center from the physical of life during this fast growth time, you will feel agitated and confused. But if you go within and connect to the higher self within you, you will find the change exhilarating, serene, and grounded. As you go within and you feel the focus on abundance and focus it will become easier and smoother. Tune into your higher self and there is where you will find what you are looking for.
I do a inner check at all times. I make sure that I am make decisions based from ‘within.’ If I am busy and things are going crazy, I check in with the inner me and find my balance where it is always steady and secure. When I am writing, I go within before I begin tapping those keys. I use my physical to do the human work necessary to fulfill the inner self where all answers are known, all love ‘is,’ and all is balanced and calm. It’s a great place to ‘be.’
Think back to all the times that you chose how you wanted to feel when someone was trying to make you feel bad. Be grateful that you thought to stay balanced and calm and completely ‘see through’ to the other person’s emotion. Know that you can feel however you decide you want to feel no matter what comes your way. And if you haven’t done this once or twice then begin today. It will make your life a whole lot smoother. Remember that no matter who upsets you, if it affects you, the vibration is being sent out to bring you more of what you are letting affect you so how about nip it in the bud ahead of time. 
There is someone in my life who is a family member that teaches me so many things about choice and how I can choose how to feel. She does everything in her power to throw me, my parents, and anyone in her own vicinity ‘off’ through envy, jealousy, fear, insecurity, and her off balance.
I step back and observe her thoughts and behaviors without any kind of judgment…just allowing, knowing that whatever she wants or doesn’t want to be she has created. I don’t have to agree or be a part of it all but I learn through observing her and how to live my own life. I learn so much about balance and calm when I speak with her. It’s all in how you perceive it. I choose to perceive the positive and release the things that don’t apply to me, wherever they may come from. Keep this in mind BEFORE you speak to them on the phone or see them in person so that you are prepared to be calm, balanced, and allowing.
How about you say to yourself regarding everyone that is in your life, “I give permission for them to be who they are. It doesn’t matter if I think they are doing it all wrong, in their eyes they are doing it all right and I am going to step away from being right and let them live life as they see fit.” As you do this you will be raising your own vibration and be accepting and loving yourself as well. As you do this, you will attract even more positive into your life.
In our eyes we believe that we know what rings true and as much as we want to shout it from the rooftops and say, “Look what I have found…it rings true for me…it must ring true for everyone!” it’s important to remember that what rings true for one doesn’t mean it does for another. But each of us are living what works for us. So let’s make a point to let others ‘be’ and if someone wants to know what you know then by all means shout it from the rooftops but until then enjoy your journey along side of all different points of view.
You are an amazing person. You are deserving and worthy of a truly wonderful life. Others that have abundance and happiness are not better than you or more deserving. They just let wonderful things come into their lives minus a resistant vibration. Allow abundance and happiness to come into your life. You deserve it!
It’s amazing how our thoughts and what we feel makes such a difference in how our life unfolds, and each resistant thought we have about ourselves or our life builds on all the others that we may have. Remember not to look at others and say that you could never have that or be envious of what they have because this is creating resistant vibrations to the very thing you are wanting in your life.
When you are able to look at others’ abundance with joy and know that you too are just as deserving you have ‘let go’ of the resistant vibrations and will be working toward aligning with all that you know you deserve. You can only have what you are conscious of. Are you conscious of how loved, deserving, and worthy you are of having a wonderful life? When you get to that point, life will change dramatically and all will unfold just as you have seen within your own mind.
When you are able to connect to the essence of what you want you are making it possible for it to happen in many different ways. If the essence of what you want is a job that you love instead of that exact job that you think will make you happy, you will find many ways to create many different opportunities and not just the one job. If you don’t know the essence you may get a job that is not fulfilling because you just asked for one particular job. Find the essence and you open up a whole new world of possibilities.
There are times where we want something to be exactly as we envision but it’s important to remember that what we envision is just a small part of the whole picture. We may be able to see exactly what we think works best for us, but the Universe sees the whole picture.: what people will affect us, what situations have to happen to get you what you want, which connections we have to make in order to get there, and what we need to ‘vibrate’ in order to get what we want.
We can’t possibly know the whole picture, but the Universe does. So when you visualize and stay focused on the essence of what you want, know that the Universe always has your back and will give you ‘as is’ or better. And I must say…it is usually more glorious than you ever could imagine!
In every belief that you have and experience there is always an opposite belief that is there as well; one that you haven’t manifested. If you have a belief that you don’t deserve abundance remember that there is an opposite belief within you that says that you do deserve abundance. Take the focus away from the negative belief and activate the positive one. You will change your experience when you shift your focus to the positive.
No matter what you are experiencing right now you can choose to see an outcome that feels good. As you work through what you are going through, you can know deep within your heart and soul that the outcome is just as you have envisioned. You will find that what you are going through will begin to diminish and fade as you keep your focus on a wonderful outcome and then one day you will wake up and find everything has gotten smoother, calmer, easier, AND just as you envisioned. Don’t let the minor things shift your focus away from the life you deserve. Keep focus and in~joy the process.
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