When we are in the middle of a negative situation we can’t see the humor within it or the positive lessons we may learn from the experience.  But when we look back we can actually laugh at some of the story and what had transpired and realize that what felt like a negative hard time may not have been as serious as we thought it was.  Laughter and positive thinking can actually bring you through that experience.  Don’t forget that that difficult negative experience is just one little moment in your life.  There are so many other positive experiences you can focus on.

I inherited something from my dad that not only helps me with what I do for a living but also helps my own inner work. And that is the ability to not remember things.  My mom and Lee both are able to remember every date known to man.  My mom remembers every little dress she had since she was two years old and Lee can remember being potty trained.  I, on the other hand as well as my dad, don’t hang onto dates very well and our memory is sketchy when it comes to experiences.  Let me clear that up a little.  When it comes to negative experiences.

Mom can remember when a little boy looked at her sideways when she was young, and every moment from here to eternity.  Dad and I forget.  We tend to forget when someone has spoken meanly, we forget the feelings and thoughts attached to hurtful situations, and we are able to just forget period.   Now does this mean we ‘let go’ easily?  There’s a difference between ‘letting go’ and forgetting.  ‘Letting go’ is when we intentionally make an effort to release a situation from our lives whereas forgetting is, well, forgetting!

But it does come in handy in the process of ‘letting go’ when you can’t remember what you are ‘letting go’ of! LOL

Here’s where it takes the inner work.  We forget the actual experience but we do hold onto the feeling and essence of what happened.  We can’t quite place our finger on why we feel the way we do about someone or something because we have forgotten the experience itself. So for us it is like a phantom to track down why we feel as we do.  I found my fix years ago.

When I am experiencing a situation I immediately work it out in my mind, body, and spirit.  I don’t wait.  I listen within.  I ‘let go’ of the resistant feeling immediately knowing that if someone has hurt my feelings it is only because I reacted to something they might be experiencing…not me.  I always know if it has worked because the next time I see them or they apologize for something I don’t have that resistant residual feeling that I had before.  The key is begin working on the resistance immediately so that it doesn’t cause any repetitive or residual thoughts and feelings.

We’re all so unique in how we handle life and what we experience.  No one is smarter, better, or more enlightened than the next.  We are all experiencing in different ways together.

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