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How many times do we look to the past and remember the times when we felt hurt or betrayed? Or how many times do we look to the future and worry about a job, our children, our financial status, a relationship, or our health? Are you living in the past or living in the future and what kind of vibrations are you creating through that focus?
The place you want to be is ‘in the now.’ Living ‘in the now’ of the day and not looking anxiously at what might be. Be aware of your day today. LIVE today. BE today. Don’t let anything take you away from living today and enjoy, enjoy, enjoy each moment. Your todays will become your tomorrows.
I remember standing next to Nannie, that’s what I called my grandma, to make Snickerdoodles. I loved the smell, I loved standing by her on my stool, and I loved the talks we had over baking. She wasn’t the best cook but boy could she bake cookies! We’d talk about her day and all her students. She had a class of first- and second-graders each year and she would take me on the field trips with them. I was four years old at the time and the older girls loved to babysit me during field trips.
I remember her handing me the little balls of cookie dough so that I could roll them in the cinnamon sugar. She said I ‘had the touch.’ I was very proud of ‘having the touch’ even though I had no idea what that meant.
She would ask me about my day and I would talk to her about my big day I had. My brother pinching me, gathering walnuts, playing in the ivy, and the worrisome birthday party I had to go to the next week. I didn’t want to go because it would be all big kids and that scared me. Nannie handed me a ball of dough. “Bethie, what is today?” I didn’t understand what she meant.
“Umm…it is when the sun comes up,” I said hesitantly. She laughed that deep rattling laugh.
“Today is like no other day because tomorrow today will be gone. “
That made my head spin.
“I don’t get it.”
“You see when we worry about what will happen in the next few days we are robbing ourselves of the day that there is right now. You are worried and that worry is making you feel sad while you and I are having such a great time together. How about we figure out how to solve your worry later and just focus on the joy of what we are doing right now?”
To a four-year-old that made complete sense. “Stop worrying and have fun.”
I said, “Okay, Nannie.”
We finished making our cookies and sat down and enjoyed cookies and milk. Both of us were laughing and wearing our milk moustaches, and she said, “Now how about instead of creating a big fear we figure out what it is?”
I told her what I thought would happen. The kids might tease me and I would be embarrassed to tell anyone.
“But what could happen, Sunshine? Maybe it will all be fine. Would it help if I came with you?”
Problem solved. “That would fix it.”
“Then how about we get back to today and go play some games.”
I hopped down from the table.
I look back now and realized she gave me a very valuable lesson. There is a solve but until you find and know that solve…enjoy the now. Now go bake some Snickerdoodles!
We look at the world through our own experiences and perceptions. What we have experienced, what we see, and what we think is unique. Just as everyone else is unique. You and a friend can be so close but still see life in a different way. The way we look at life can be as a beautiful life or one that is misshapen. If you want to see a beautiful world you must make the effort to clear your own thinking of what you perceive the world to be. Clear out judging everything or everyone around you. Find the beauty within life and don’t make any judgments on anything you know nothing about. You can never know what someone has gone through unless you have been in their mind and walked in their shoes. Stick to creating your life and not practice assumptions of someone else’s.
Mom and I were sitting in the waiting room waiting for Dad. We sat and drank our coffee and watched people while waiting. An older gentleman walked by and Mom leaned over and whispered, “Did you see his hair? Do you really think he likes it that way? Oh my!”
I looked at the man and just saw a man, minding his own business, and enjoying life. I smiled knowing how Mom gets when she is worried about Dad. I leaned over and whispered, “Maybe he does like his hair, Mom. Maybe he thinks your hair isn’t that great either but to each his own.”
She thought for a minute. “Who made you so…so…wise. It sure wasn’t your father!” Another person went by. She was an elderly woman with white hair but the same style as Mom’s. “I really like HER hair.”
“It looks just like yours, Mom.”
“Oh no it doesn’t. It’s white and curlier.”
“Do you like your hair, Mom?”
“I don’t. I want hair like…that other guy.”
“The one you said you didn’t like?”
“Yeah. Maybe if I had his hair I could be as oblivious as him.”
Oh, man…Mom… I couldn’t wait for Dad to get out of surgery so that Mom would come back to being her old self…the sweet, kind Mom with the spunk…not the bite bite ouch ouch Mom whenever she’s worried.
Her perception of life changes when she is worried about something. I have learned many a lesson when it comes to observing my parents and what I choose to think and react to. Worry hasn’t been in my vocabulary or mind for years and I thank my mom for helping me with that particular perception in life. Perception is everything. 
“You have good hair, Bethie.”
“Thanks Mom.”
“I think the color looks good on you.”
“Thanks Mom.”
“Have you ever thought about going a little darker?”
“No, Mom. I like my color.”
“I do too. It’s not as clowny like…” She whispers, “You know who.”
“Thanks Mom…I think.”
The switchboard calls me over. “Your dad’s out of surgery and doing fine. You can go up to his room in ten minutes.”
I sat back down and told Mom. “Isn’t that nice, Bethie? She let us know.” She breathed a sigh of relief.
“Sorry about my meanness, Bethie.”
“No worries, Mom. Dad’s doing well.”
“You love me, don’t you?”
“I do, Mom. More than you’ll ever know.”
She took my hand. “I LOVE your hair. But that man’s hair…”
I smiled. “Stop while you’re ahead, Mom.”
She laughed. “Want to go get something in the cafeteria?”
Sometimes we expect things to be done a certain way thinking that our way is the only way. Now think about this for a moment. When we take an idea and try to push someone else to do it our way we really are taking away from the experience for them and for us. Maybe we might be missing out on some new and interesting way (maybe even an easier way) of getting something done. How about we trust that others can do it their way and we can do it our way and if their way is possibly better we may have a new exciting experience that will change our direction to what we want. A new easier way…what do you say?! 
I remember when I was a little girl and my family was at a family reunion full of aunts, uncles, grandmas, grandpas, cousins, moms, dads, family friends; you name it, they were there. I felt very small among all my older cousins and my only girl cousin of my age couldn’t make it so I was surrounded by boys of all ages waiting to scare me or tease me. They had me terrified that bats would fly at my long hair or that there were snakes waiting to come out from every corner. I hung tight to my mom who kept shooing me away to ‘go play.’ She finally asked my brother to take care of me. He was three years older than me but at the time wanted nothing to do with a 7-year-old little sister as he was trying to be the ‘big it’ to the cousins.
So I followed him around with my pigtails and pink and blue polka-dotted sneakers and just observed how silly boys could be until…I saw trouble. Some of the boys had brought firecrackers and they were the pretty big kind. But not only that, they also had a science lab set complete with chemicals. I may have been seven years old but I knew that was not good news. My thoughts raced. If I told I would be dubbed the ultimate tattle-tale and that was worse than death when it came to being a little sister.
I could cry and say I hurt my knee and get my brother away from the possible fate or I could do something. I don’t know what I was thinking. I thought maybe they would listen to reason but I was seven and they were having way too much fun. I pulled on my brother’s jean leg.
“I don’t think that’s a good idea. You might blow your head off!”
“Leave me alone, It.” Yes, that is what my brother called me, It.
“You’re gonna die, ” I said, matter of fact. “And if you don’t die, you’ll blow your hair off.”
“You’re such a baby, Bethie. We know what we’re doing.”
“I see it in my head. You’re gonna blow your hair off.”
They lit the fuse. I ran underneath the walnut tree and plugged my ears. I heard a sizzle and then a huge ‘POP.’ I was afraid to open my eyes but I just had to. There was my brother with the ends of his hair on fire and the cousins throwing dirt on his head. They got the fire out but he looked just like one of those cartoons…sooted face and he blew his hair off.
He was fine.
Mom took him to the barber and they shaved off his hair. I have a picture that sums it all up. A picture with the Easter bunny with me grinning ear to ear and my brother balder than a billiard ball. Sometimes you just need to listen, take the information in, and use it even if it is your LITTLE sister giving you the advice.
When we make a choice to move forward in life it is bound to stir it up. Any kind of change is going to change your life. The way you think, the way you act, the way you go about life. If you change it up things begin to move forward. But don’t let it stop you. If you are unhappy with how life is going and you want life to move forward, get out of your current frame of mind and think beyond the life you are living right now. Don’t be afraid of change. It is good. It means life and you are moving forward. Sometimes it can feel hard, but it is all in how you look at it. If you don’t want to change your life then stay in your present state of mind and you’ll be sure to achieve no movement, sitting forever in the same exact place. OR you can shake up life and start moving toward the thoughts of what you really want, be ready for change, and let it happen. Then you’ll be moving to a life that you really desire.
When my grandma came over in a covered wagon it took change. She had her mind set on moving to the oceans of California and things seemed to be getting worse but in order for change to happen, she went ahead with her plans, following her heart. She got to California.
My dad and mom had to make a change when they were younger. They wanted to move to another area that was far away from their hometown just for a new beginning. They began to focus on what they wanted and they left their hometown and family with ten dollars in their pockets. It took the thought to change their circumstance and the hope of something new. It took the change and following their heart to get them there.
Lee and I wanted to move to Oregon. We asked and visualized for a wonderful home and new place. When something new comes into your thought that is different than what you are experiencing now, it takes change. The homes we were living in burned in wildfires. That was big change and we followed our heart and here we are in our little piece of heaven we call Oregon.
So… If you are wanting a new life, different than what you have right now, then there is going to be a change. No matter how you look at it. It takes the change of thought and then life changes. It doesn’t always seem positive when the change comes but it always is in hindsight…follow your heart.
Sometimes when we want to be nice and be polite we don’t tell others what we really think. We don’t tell them our thoughts that are from the heart. We worry that we might hurt someone’s feelings if we speak the truth. You know, you can be honest without being rude. You can let others know who you are through your honest thoughts. Be who you really are and express from your own inner self without being hurtful. You will show your true colors of who you are.
I had two little aunts that were complete opposites. Both were the sweetest little things but each had different mannerisms. One had bright red hair and no eyebrows. She had shaved them off when she was thirteen and they never grew back, so she always painted her eyebrows on after that. I remember she always look surprised since she painted her eyebrows just a little too high.
Then there was my other little aunt who was as tall as she was wide. Very sensible shoes and horn-rimmed glasses. She had a very strong definite walk that you knew she meant business.
Auntie with the rimmed glasses always gave me quarters. “That’s just for being pretty, Bethie.” But when she talked to anyone she was harshly blunt. She would tell you that there was something on your face but in a tone that made you feel guilty not to have seen it.
“There’s something on your face and it looks bad. You should go take a look.”
Then there was my auntie with no eyebrows. She would bring me beads and baubles that she would just find around the house. I knew she bought them for me but she didn’t want the other cousins to know. She was different with her honesty.
“Bethie, you have a little something on your face, dear. I bet you didn’t know it, did you? Here let me go get a Kleenex for you. One time I had something stuck on my face all day long and your uncle never said a word. I decided from then on I would always tell someone if they had a smudgie on their face.”
She made me feel included. She made me feel as if she was my friend and confidante. She told me the truth with kindness and from who she really was.
Auntie with the rimmed glasses had the same honesty but gave it from a blunt, almost hurtful tone. While Auntie with no eyebrows gave me the same kind of honesty with kindness. They have both passed over now, and isn’t it something how we remember others? Each putting out the vibration of the same honesty yet two unique vibrations of honesty.
Think about it today, when you are looking at others or a family member and are prepared to give them the honest truth. Think about where it comes from…is it the true you within or the you that is judgmental?
And this goes for you as well. Remember to be honest and kind with yourself and not judgmental and harsh. Everything is creating a vibration…even what you think of you.
There are so many wonderful experiences in the simple things in life. It sends out positive vibrations and puts you in a better mood and alignment. Maybe take a walk, write in your journal, listen to a little bit of music, pick up a book to read, go get an ice cream, anything that doesn’t require too much effort…just joy. Take care of yourself through some simple things today and when you do…experience it to the fullest. The simple things in life are truly free.
This is a must for me. No matter what I am doing through out my day I always take a moment to enjoy something that clears my mind and creates those feelings of ‘just me and the Universe.’ It comes in the form of drinking a cup of coffee, sitting down and enjoying one of our pets, a few minutes of inspirational reading, the first blast of air conditioning in the car, staring out over the mountains, doodling (I’m a doodler!),or a clear cold glass of water. It doesn’t take much to find something simple and enjoy and experience it to the fullest. Those moments create some of the most pure positive vibrations in the day. They’re like little breaths of fresh air clearing your mind, body, and spirit.
We’re all great about thanking the Universe for all the wonderful things that have come into our lives but how about we take it a step further? How about being grateful for what tomorrow brings? How about having a little faith that each day is going to get better and better even if today is already great. How about thanking the Universe in advance for all those wonderful moments that will come into your life? By doing this, you are affirming to the Universe that you trust and know that all will be taken care of and you know it without a doubt. Having that kind of trust sends positive ‘in the now’ vibrations of being grateful ahead of time and those vibrations will bring you abounding blessings!
Mom doesn’t realize how much fun she has brought to us through her and the rooster. Let me give you a recap of the story. We had a rooster just show up one day on the property. We asked around hoping someone would say, “Oh, that’s my rooster. I’ll come pick him up!” but we had no such luck. This rooster was a beautiful shade of green and seemed like a young rooster. He was cock-a-doodle-doo-ing all throughout the day. Mom had an immediate reaction. “What is a rooster doing here?! Oh…they are such trouble.” She moaned and groaned about the rooster and went outside to water her flowers. He didn’t bother her…just clucked.
As soon as that rooster had come to our home, we found him, not alive, laying in the grass. An animal had gotten to him. Mom felt guilty about it because she didn’t want the rooster there. She said, “It’s probably my fault with the thoughts I had about him. Hope another one doesn’t show up.”
The very next day a bigger, almost black color, stronger, arrogant, and old rooster showed up. Mom couldn’t believe it! “You’re kidding me, right?! Another rooster? What are the chances of that! He looks meaner than the last one. He better not get my flowers.”
The next morning she went out to feed her birds and there was the rooster eating her flowers. She ran him off with a stick but he only went a few feet. He ruffled his feathers and was, well…cocky. It made her madder than a hornet that she didn’t intimidate him. He then proceeded to eat her flowers once again.
That night Mom was like a little wet hen. She complained saying, “That rooster is going to be the death of me!” We all got to laughing so hard! She was just building, day after day, vibrations of that rooster somehow making her mad. The next morning she went out with the hose. There was the rooster eating her bird seed. I heard a slur of words from outside the studio. “You ol’ buzzard! Get away from my birdie food!” I looked out the window and there was my 78-year-old mom walking her little fast walk, as close to a run that she could get, with the hose in hand. She sprayed him and he ran a few feet, ruffled his feathers up at her, and did a huge cock-a-doodle-do!
“You don’t scare me, Beelzebub!” she yelled. When she turned her back, that ol’ rooster followed her, I’m sure laughing up his sleeve.
Mom has been building negative vibrations about this rooster in her sleep and in her waking hours. I asked her if she’d like me to do something about him but she said, “No… I wouldn’t be able to handle the guilt if you gave him to someone else. He picked us.” So we keep going round and round each day with Mom…and the rooster.
She’s affirming without a doubt that that rooster has it out for her. She’s affirming day after day that he is the meanest chicken ever. And everything she affirms, the next day the rooster fulfills her words. I can’t imagine what is up his sleeve today but until he meets his maker, he’s now a part of our family. Of course, he may meet his maker sooner than we think if Mom gets too fed up! LOL!
Do you rush around getting that first cup of coffee down your throat just so you can get all those others things that need doing, done? And then when lunch rolls around do you throw something together and eat on the run? Take some time to enjoy your food. It is another way to enjoy a simple moment in your life. When we slow down we experience fully what we are doing. And by enjoying and relaxing we are showing the Universe that we are living in ease and the Universe gets the signal and brings you more ease. Enjoy a meal today. Really enjoy it. Savor it and maybe enjoy with a family member where you can talk and be in the moment.
I remind myself of this often. My mind loves to get ahead of itself and keep looking forward as the day moves along. If I see someone running around and in fast motion, it is a reminder to me to slow down and ‘enjoy the moment.’ Taking the day with ease and just enjoy all that is happening. That is when things seem to take on a different ‘light.’ Everything becomes easier, smoother, and just outright enjoyable, and I find I even have more time than before. I love how ease and joyful vibrations create ease and joy.
The Universe has it all figured out, doesn’t it?!
Are you following what others think of as your guidance? Are their expectations of you causing you to go down a path? If you listen to others about your life and your choices, you are going on a path that may not be what you want but only what they want. Take others thoughts about your life with a grain of salt. It’s your life and you don’t have to ‘live up’ to someone else’s expectations of you. Only you do…
My dad is a wonderful guy. He has so many wonderful qualities as well as quirks that let me see what works or doesn’t work, and that helps me to fine tune my own path.
When I was young, I didn’t know what I wanted to do. I was a quiet, shy little girl and kept to myself and the world that I saw. As I grew older Dad decided that if I wasn’t going to make a decision about what I wanted to do, that I was going to be a florist and work in the florist and nursery business, side by side, with my mom and dad.
I was fifteen and was cleaning flowers and learning about plants. I couldn’t remember a Latin plant name for the life of me. It was something that wasn’t in my makeup. I didn’t have a green thumb and you had to keep the plants away because I somehow knew just how to not take care of them. My enthusiasm was there but the gift my dad had wasn’t mine.
I could create a beautiful floral arrangement, just like mom, but my heart just wasn’t in it. Dad was convinced that I was going to take over the family business because that is what he thought best for me. As I got older, I was the one delivering flowers. I didn’t mind that too much because I could take flowers to people and they would always smile. I would talk with them and get to know them, then head back to the nursery and become frustrated because my voice wasn’t being heard. But Dad knew best, right?
I then took over billing. I was the one to call the people that hadn’t paid their bill. My heart couldn’t take it. I would call, hang up, then call again, then hang up not wanting to ‘feel’ the desperation on the other end of the phone. I’ll have to say Dad put me in every area of the business. I did a great job in all areas (except the plants) yet I was upset, saddened, and following what my dad thought was ‘my calling.’
My grandma had other ideas. I took the train to my grandma’s for the summer and I had time to be free for a while. Grandma fed me too many tomatoes from her garden, taught me some tricks about driving, and gave me plenty of TLC. It was the day before I had to go home and she felt my shift.
“Bethie, you better tell me what’s on your mind or else I’ll just peek in and tell it for you!”
She had her ways. I told her. I told her I wasn’t sure where I was going but what I did know was that I was an unhappy camper in the family business.
“Why don’t you say something to your daddy?”
“Because he wants this for me. I don’t want to disappoint him.
“Bethie, there will be a day where your daddy won’t be here any longer. Do you want to waste your whole life making someone else happy and you being miserable? Wouldn’t it be better to tell him now and he may be a little disappointed but he’ll get over it and you’ll be able to do what you want to do?” She added, “You have gifts for this world, Bethie. The world needs them and your heart needs them to come out and shine. Everyone has gifts that need to shine. Let your heart direct you.”
I thought about it. She was right. I did have something to contribute to the world and it had to come through my own heart but it would be easier said than done. Dad had this look, this way, that made you feel disappointed if he was disappointed.
“I knew your daddy when he was just a little thing before he met your mama. I used to bring your mama to the church picnic and he would hang around her like a bee to honey. Your daddy didn’t have a choice. His daddy died early and he did what he thought was responsible, but that choice was his choice to make and that’s all he knows. What he doesn’t know is you are miserable and if he knew that I think he’d stop pushing you.”
She was right. I had to talk to Dad. My stomach churned and I worried all the way back home on the train. Dad was who picked me up at the station.
We rode in the car a while without saying a thing and then Dad finally spoke, “I’ve been thinking, Bethie. It’s your life. Do what makes YOU happy because that is what will make ME happy, okay?” He patted my hand and then held it. I couldn’t believe it. I didn’t have to do a thing. The timing of it all.
I had many jobs between that time and then, to what I wanted. But each job was closer to the work I really wanted to do. I can only grow bamboo plants. That’s it. I’m happy with that. My house is full of bamboos and I have an appreciation for all of the farmers and gardeners because I remember how complex it seemed.
I didn’t find out until recently that it hadn’t been Dad’s decision to let me find my own path. It was Grandma’s. Mom told me just the other day.
“You know, your grandma called your dad when you were staying at her place for the summer and she gave him a royal talking to! He was stammering and saying, “Yes, ma’am, yes ma’am, okay ma’am. Love you too. Sure I love her. Yes, ma’am. Okay.”
It made me smile. Grandma was a little bitty thing with a huge voice and laugh. And you listened when she talked.
Thank you, Grandma for helping me find my voice.
Let’s see if you can do this today. Do everything with gusto and joy. Don’t hold anything back. Be who you really are today! Happy dance down the aisles! Sing-scream in the car! Smile bigger than you have ever smiled before at complete strangers! Build, build, build those positive vibrations so that you have no room for a negative thought and when the negative shows it face…LAUGH big and loud!
When Lee and I first started our Law of Attraction and Positive Thought business it took a little time to get used to the radio. We would rehearse before we went on and I still was nervous. Then I began to relax and enjoy the impromptu feeling of the show.
One day someone e-mailed us and it was directed to the Beth and Lee Radio Show. Janet opened up the e-mail and the person talked about how much they enjoyed the techniques on our show but thought that I laughed way too much. Janet wasn’t sure if she wanted to show it to me. She said she thought about deleting it.
She thought about giving it to Lee. She thought about quietly letting me know, worried that I might be embarrassed. She knew I had been nervous (at first) about speaking on the radio and she was trying to protect me from any hurt. Janet knows me pretty well but when it comes to anyone or thing being said about Lee and me she worries about how it would make her feel and compares her experiences to us.
She finally decided to tell Lee and me.
“Beth, Lee? Could I talk to you for a moment, dears?” Janet said quietly, trying not to draw any attention. Lee and I walked over. “Uh…you got an e-mail about the radio show,” she started. Lee was all excited. He loves hearing feedback. He likes the thought of changing up the show if someone really gives good feedback. It tells him how to direct the next show. Janet frowned. “It’s not all that, Lee.”
“Just read it, ” I said to Janet.
“Okay,” Janet said hesitantly. “But just to let you know, it might be hurtful.”
Janet read the e-mail.
“Dear Beth and Lee, while I love the show and all the methods and question/answer periods within the show, I believe there is something taking away from your weekly show. I think Beth laughs way too much. Sincerely, …”
I looked at Janet then looked at Lee. I started laughing. I laughed so hard I thought I wasn’t going to be able to breathe. Lee looked at me and said, “Beth you know that the Law of Attraction is serious business.” I laughed even harder. Oh man! Can you imagine me doing any kind of show without the joy and laughter? Needless to say…the laughter stays in!
When you are able to do the work ‘within’ yourself and begin to ask for ease and feel ease within yourself, then the world and all that you do will come into your life with ease. Start within. That’s where you start to find all that you are looking for.
Have you ever noticed what you feel like when you are having an uptight day? Your mind races and feels kind of tight and your body is held in a tight position, expecting something to happen whatever that negative uptight something may be. When this happens, do a body and mind check. Check to see if you are feeling tense in your shoulders, or maybe your thoughts feel like a repetitive trap you just can’t seem to let go of. Once you recognize those feelings, stop and then take a deep breath releasing all the tension from your body as well as your mind. Maybe you need to release some tears or maybe you just need to remember to begin again. Begin to relax, release the thoughts of worry and the uptight, and know that no matter how you feel at this very moment, it can be changed. Being tense will not change the situation, so why not go through the experience with a ‘go with the flow’ kind of feel and begin to ‘feel’ positive expectations. As you begin to feel those new thoughts your body and mind will begin to relax into the new positive feelings and thoughts. And once you’ve done that…it is smooth sailing. It’s so much easier and clearer to make decisions from a calm state of mind. Find the calm and ease within you and all will come to you with ease.
You have no idea how the thoughts and action of another can change a whole chain of events for people and their day. Or maybe even your own thoughts and actions. Remember that when you make a decision to smile or frown it can change not only your day, but someone else’s. Or how about your decision to take that one five-minute parking spot and you know darn well it is going to take you longer. Maybe that spot will benefit someone who is disabled, but they can’t take the spot because of the decision you made. Take a moment today and think about your choices for even the little tiny things in life because each choice sends out a vibration that affects you and the people around you. Don’t get so wrapped up in where you are going that you don’t pay attention to being happy and sending positive vibrations to others as well. And you know…those positive vibrations come back like a boomerang just for you!
A little while back we had family come up and we have a tradition where we go to a local diner for breakfast. So we all got ready and called in early to let the waitress know that there was going to be a lot of us. She covered the phone and whisper talked, “The regular cook isn’t here. The owner is cooking today.”
Our ‘party dude’ cook didn’t show. He said he just wasn’t feeling well but it was obvious he had partied the night before. You are probably wondering how we know all this? The waitress told us the whole story. Hee hee…
So because of his partying, the owner came in to cook (as he scrambled eggs he asked ” Do these eggs look right?”, the regulars only drank coffee and left to get food elsewhere, and a table of twelve was lost (that would be us) for the owner’s business. And the story continues…
We decide we’re going to go to another place and we caravan into town. All five cars AND half of those cars are very slow drivers. It takes us some time getting into town and we go to the second restaurant. It was closed so then we decided on another restaurant a little further. We get there…jammed packed with the local diners’ regulars. LOL I was the caravan runner. I ran to each car at the red light to tell them where we were going next. Needless to say four of those people are elderly and you don’t want them grumpy!
So we end up at another restaurant, completely at the other end of town, where more of the ‘regulars’ were eating. We were all laughing and carrying on and had a wonderful breakfast.
But think about it…all because one person didn’t show up, it changed so many others’ day. One person….just think of all the ‘rippling’ of vibrations we do daily that we have no idea who it helps or hinders….wow…
How about starting your day in a positive state of mind? Instead of waking up and focusing on all your problems or worries begin your day focusing on what you are grateful for in your life. How grateful are you that you have a nice warm bed or food for your body, or people who encourage and support you. How about the beautiful blue sky? Take a few minutes when you get up in the morning to think about all the good things that you have in your life right now.
I think that sometimes the most simple things in life are the things that we forget about that can bring us happiness. I used to wake up, shoot out of bed, and go full force in getting a day done. Working for the sake of working, being a mom with all the PTA meetings and class room parties, just going to the next thing. Not actually living in the moment of the day and then one day about fifteen years ago, something happened. I realized I wasn’t really living. I was just running the rat race of life instead of enjoying life. I began to become aware of each moment, slowing down and truly feeling every moment of the day, finding things to enjoy and really ‘be.’ When I did that, time seemed to slow down, life became much richer and fuller, and things just began to come with ease. I had even more time than I had before when I was rushing around. My view of life changed and then…life changed. I began to find the simple things were full of joy and life began to take a full turn from the inside out all by starting my day by looking at the things that sometimes get taken for granted.
How certain are you about life? Do you know that being certain is a limited thought but being uncertain is, in its own way, unlimited. So when things feel uncertain remember that you are now in the reality of the unlimited. This is where unlimited possibilities lie and unlimited abundance and answers in all things. There are so many ways it can happen. It is your moment to mold and shape the result of what you want to happen and then let the unlimited ways for it to come from the uncertainty. You can be certain that there is an answer, but you can be uncertain of the how the answer comes. But just know there is an answer in an unlimited, surprising, and wonderful way — just for you.
‘Let it go’ is one of our phrases around here that immediately puts whoever we are talking to (even ourselves!) at ease. Try it sometime. If things are being rushed around or there isn’t an immediate solution to some computer issue, one of us will say, “Just let it go.” Instantly you realize what it is that you want to happen. And in order for all those glorious answers of the ‘how’ to come, we have to ‘let it go’ to the Universe and trust and know it is taken care of. That’s where the ease and relaxation comes in…let it go. There go the shoulders to a relaxed position and the mind begins to clear and settle.
It’s one of my favorite thought phrases…let…it…go…aaaahhhhhhhh…
Did you know that everyone is a genius? Yes, everyone. You can tap into the same knowledge that a genius does. A genius is a human being that has thoroughly tapped into his connection to the Universe. He’s able to hear and understand his intuition and the guidance it provides and any info that he asks for, he hears. He has figured out how to tap into his spiritual and conscious connections to his higher self and the Universe within.
Lee went to put a five dollar bill in a particular man’s cap. The homeless man looked up at Lee and then off to the side and then to the heavens as if he was listening to someone. He then said to Lee, “Thank you, sir. Me and my guide thank you.”
“Well, you tell your guide — and you — that it’s my pleasure.” Then the homeless man said something else to Lee.
“You’re a new thought teacher I hear.” Lee smiled, trying not to feel too unnerved. Sure, Lee deals with my psychic moments, but that’s me who knows him well. Not a homeless man on the street.
“Excuse me?” Lee said.
“You’re a healer. In a different kind of way. You see…” And Lee said the homeless man began talking about the world and all the different kinds of healers. Lee said he sounded like a quantum scientist and he had that look of genius in his eyes.
Lee waved goodbye and the man said, “Keep up the good work, friend! You have a voice that will carry!”
Genius is in everyone…and so is the Universe.
Laughter can help just about anything in your life. We can sit around and get upset about all the politics in the world, our relationships, our career, our money situations but it really is more useful to laugh instead of getting annoyed at what is around you. A dose of laughter can de-stress, make you feel better, and helps us to handle changes in our lives. It can even make things more clear within our minds. So why don’t you try not to be frustrated or annoyed today and look for the humor in whatever is irritating you. Because you will always be able to find the humor in life…believe me!
It is something I do everyday, just like brushing my teeth, but I will say I have a lot of help. I am a giggler. I giggle at everything. I giggle when I’m happy, I giggle when I’m thinking, I am ‘the giggler.’ Not in a Betty Rubble kind of way, but in the way it bubbles up from my toes and comes out my mouth. Everything cracks me up! My laughter isn’t laughing at someone but usually at a situation when everyone gets all tense and begins to get agitated.
I look at how worked up everyone gets and I know that the situation is very serious to them but to me, I know that ‘all is well and taken care of’ if we relax, calm down, laugh a little, and let the unlimited thinking begin toward a wonderful solve.
That being said…I am the one always knocking the microphone with my feet during recording or the one who comes running around a corner in my rollie chair with my broken foot ready to create and be excited.
I do have my serious moments but I find my best creating comes from my happiness within and THAT is what makes me giggle.
Our wonderful team understand me. I have a wonderful husband who loves and understands me. They know “the face” when I get serious, but that is really rare. They know my thinking face (and that is often) but they really know my giggle face. The one that says, “Watch out! Beth is about to burst!” And they all sit back, wait until the giggling has subsided, and start to record. Lucky me, to have so many people around that really do ‘get’ me!
Why do others’ thoughts seem to matter about who we are? ‘My arms are flabby. My car is a wreck. I wonder what ‘they’ are thinking about me? I told a pretty funny joke at work today, I wonder if anyone noticed? I gave some change to a guy on the corner, I wonder if he will appreciate me?’
It sounds like someone who is on stage performing for the people, doesn’t it? Why is it when we think everything is great, we still can’t be happy until we know what others think about us. Did you know that we will never ever know for sure what someone else is thinking about us?
How about it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter what others think of you. All that matters is what you think of you. Are YOU living up to who you want to be? Do YOU like the way you look? Do YOU think you’re kind and generous? The others’ opinions don’t matter unless it is something you want to have as a part of your vibration.
I was in the department store and trying on swimsuits. Yes, swimsuits. I always pick something in emerald green or black and always a one piece. Those are just my preferences. So I found three or four suits that could work and walked into my dressing room. That particular dressing room was the only one left and it had no mirror so I tried on the first swimsuit and walked out to look in the mirror at the end of the hall. Well, you would have thought it was a fashion show. Everyone and their mother had advice about whether my suit looked good or not.
“That looks lovely,” one lady said.
“I don’t like it. I don’t think it flatters your tushie,” another said.
“I think her butt looks good but not sure about your chest area,” one said.
Here I was, just minding my own business trying on the first swimsuit, and I realized that all of the women were probably just wanting to help since we all know that swimsuit shopping isn’t always fun for most.
By the time I had finished trying them all on, there were many comments about what they felt was the best. When I came out in my clothes they all, at the same time, said,” Well? Which one is it going to be?” They were waiting to hear if their pick was it.
I smiled and said, “The black one with the little skirt and the tank top.”
“Oh…” one lady said. It hadn’t been her pick.
“Oh…” another one said. It hadn’t been her pick either.
“Oh…” not her pick either. I actually hadn’t picked out any of the ones they liked.
“Why did you pick THAT one?!” one of the women chided.
“It was the most comfortable!” I picked what I liked AND was the most comfortable. No one else could have done that for me but me.
There you have it. And I liked how it looked, thank you very much!
How about you let yourself envision really big today? Let your mind go to all those thoughts of what could be in your life and all the unlimited possibilities and ways it can come to you. Now, make the choice to move forward and get those dreams out from just the ether world and bring them into physical manifestation. Imagine big and create the consciousness of the unlimited. Make more room in your vibrations to include this wonderful vision. Now, take some kind of action – either within your mind or in the physical – and bring them into manifestation.
We can only have what we are conscious of. Change patterns of thought and do something a little different than normal. Create more room in your consciousness to accommodate all those new, vibrant, and exciting vibrations that will manifest the dreams you are envisioning.
It started out with a phone call. Lee and I happened to grab the phone at the same time and answered. “Lee, Beth? Oh my goodness! I can’t believe I’m talking to you BOTH! It’s Aunt Gen!” Lee calls her my sweet little 200 year old auntie. She giggled like she always does. Lee walks in with the cordless phone and sits at the end of the table. He loves to do that when I’m on the phone with Aunt Gen. For some reason, she gives me the giggles. Kind of like when you get soda pop bubbles in your nose.
“There’s my two little jelly beans! My you both sound so old…” she exclaimed.
I stifle a giggle as Lee looks at me dumbfounded.
“Well, I called!” she said.
Lee answers, “I see that, Auntie Gen. Would you like to talk to Vernie?”
That’s what Aunt Gen calls my mom.
“What?!” Aunt Gen couldn’t hear him.
“You know…VERNIE.”
“How is my Vernie? Is all well in her little baby pouch?”
I stifle another giggle but not too well. Aunt Gen was referring to Mom’s surgery and having a hysterectomy.
“She doing wonderful!” I said.
“Yeah but there is no longer a womb for rent!” Lee interjected.
“Oh, Lee Bean!” she laughed uproariously once again. “How do you live with such wit, Bethie Boo?”
I laughed. “He’s a regular card!”
She giggled some more. “I think I’m having problems with my focus.”
“Oh really? In what way, my dear?” I asked.
“OHHHH!!!! You called me ‘my dear. My grandmother used to call me that back in the day when I was just a little beansprout.”
Lee tried to redirect the conversation. “Would you like to talk with Vernie?”
“Do you have trouble with focus, Lee Bean, being the age you are?”
There come my giggles again. “Hold it together, Beth, just until you get off the phone,” I think to myself.
“I’m doing pretty good with focus, Aunt Gen. How about you?” Lee said.
“Oh, I don’t have a focus problem. It’s your Uncle who has the focus problem.”
I feel like we’re talking in circles and Lee’s gobsmacked. Aunt Gen has always reminded me a bit of Aunt Clara on ‘Bewitched.’
“But you just said…” Lee started to say but he decided better of it.
“I listened to the radio show. I just love when Peanut read the contest winners.”
“Thank you, Auntie Gen. We had a good time with that show.” Lee added.
“Was that you with Bethie Boo on the radio? Oh my, that makes it even better!”
Could Lee’s eyes and mouth get ANY wider from astonishment?! It was like being on a merry go round but a whole lot more fun! I always loved Aunt Gen!
“Oh…Sweet Little Lee. You are my favorite little jelly bean in the bowl even if you are a bit scatter brained!!”
That did it. I was a goner. I got to laughing so hard I said my goodbyes and hobbled in to get Mom on the phone. It felt like that old comedy routine of ‘Who’s on First?’ and Lee and I were part of the comedy team. After we got off the phone Lee looked at me and said, “It appears my brain is scattered!”
You know when you are on the right path when all the right people and situations arrive with ease. This isn’t to say that the path is always going to be easy, but you will know within if you are being directed in a slightly different way and if it ‘feels’ full of ease and joy. If you hit wall after wall then it’s time to reconsider the way you are going about the path you are on. Check your thoughts and feelings and see if fear or self-sabotage is in the way. It may be the right path but you may be standing in front of it. Once you clear the road with your new thoughts without the fear, then the path will become clear to you.
‘Fear is the thief of dreams’ is a quote that we have hanging in big letters on our studio bulletin board. There is nothing better than being excited about a new project and figuring out what the true end result of what we want is. Then we await instructions from the Universe as to the ‘how’ and sometimes, when it doesn’t come quick enough, the ol’ impatience or fear steps in when you think, “Is this right? Should I be going this way? What do you think? How about you?” And then starts a fear of ‘what if it isn’t right?’ Then, like a ton of bricks, you read, “FEAR is the thief of dreams” and you do an inner check. We have found just because it doesn’t come within minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months, doesn’t mean that it isn’t right. As long as you continue to have forward movement and still feel that it is the right direction, then it is.
When we began exchanging ideas for the Positive Thought Retreat, Lee had buttons made for the studio staff that read, “FEAR is the thief of dreams” and everyone wore them in those beginning stages as a reminder that this dream was not going to be robbed by a teeny tiny four letter word that only exists in the mind.
The acceptance and the freedom that you want has always been there. When you are able to understand that everyone is unique and different and that you only have to be exactly who you are without any opinions or perceptions of others then that is the kind of truth that will set you free.
Peanut came home from the park and told me something that happened. She had been with a group of her friends and they were talking about all the different kinds of celebrities and such. Peanut is unique. We’ve taught her not to ‘buy into’ what everyone else does ‘just because’. We have taught her to weigh what the others have to say but at the same time to always go with what she ‘feels’ inside.
She said they were all talking about the latest celebrity and her troubles. Peanut said, “I really don’t know that much about her. I think that maybe none of you know anything about her too. Sometimes what you see isn’t what really is.”
She said that a couple of her friends made fun of her. “Why would you want to know her, Peanut? You just don’t know because you’re one of the only people in the world that doesn’t follow what’s popular.”
Ouch…it hurt Peanut’s feelings. And then she said she heard a little voice inside that said, “Doesn’t matter, remember? They just don’t know. Is it important enough to get upset because you don’t ‘feel’ accepted, or is it better to realize this is not your fight? You are fine if you don’t follow what they do. You are accepted…and loved.”
Peanut said she listened and said aloud, “Just because you follow what’s popular doesn’t make you…or me…any better than the rest. I’m a good friend, right?”
The girls piped down and nodded. “And you like me because of who I am and not because I always agree with you, right?”
They didn’t say a word. “I’m going home now. “ She picked up her things and four of the little girls followed her. Right when she finished her story, the phone rang. “Hello?” Really…thanks…thanks a lot! Bye!” She rolled her eyes. “That was Shannon. She called to tell me she was sorry for being an idiot.”
As she walked upstairs I heard her mutter, “Immature 12-year-olds…”
That was coming from an 11-year-old! LOL
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