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Ever watch a movie and you can’t imagine how all the characters are going to be okay or how it will ever work out, and then at the end you see that all is well and has a happily ever after? Think of this when you experience a few problems in your life. When using the Law of Attraction we visualize on the end result and never worry about ‘how’ it happens. Just like in the movie there are twists and turns, but you know it will all end as it should.
Next time you have a problem or are going through one of those times, focus on the ‘happily ever after’ waiting at the end of it all. Each problem will work out in some wonderful way as you focus only on the happy ending. You see, when you focus on that happy ending it has already begun to build a bridge to what you want from the ‘ether’ world, to the physical world. Keep focus and just know… Happily ever after and all the problems will be solved one by one until you arrive at Happily Ever After.
The other day I went to do some shopping. I had my usual smile on my face and my positive thoughts as well but each person I encountered was less than positive. I’d say, “Good morning. How is your day going?”
And they would reply, “You’re kidding right? Do you see where I’m working?!”
Hmmm… Someone wasn’t too happy and everyone, for those first few greetings, were stinkers. When this happens I always check my own inner compass to make sure this isn’t a reflection of how I am feeling. That is always my first thought and then when I’m not having any of those negative feelings then I realize that maybe being positive is what is in store for me…and for them. I do a ‘quick adjustment’ in my mind and stay on focus. Positively positive…
I kept walking with pep in my step and continued on. I headed to the office supply and encountered the same thing. Each time I greeted someone they would say something negative so the next person I took a different approach.
“Can I help you ma’am?” An older woman asked.
My usual greeting. “How’s your day going?”
“Don’t even ask. It’s my first day back so this is my Monday.” She was tired and upset.
“Well…at least you’re one day closer to the next day off.”
“Ha ha,” she said with no emotion. I changed the subject.
“I could use some help. I’m looking for the mailing labels.” She took me over to where they were. Her manager came over to read her the riot act about something. Her shoulders drooped and she took it. What else could she do? It was her manager.
Obviously she felt unappreciated.
I found my labels and turned to her. “You know. I really appreciate you helping me.”
“Sure,” she said without even looking up.
“No, seriously. I APPRECIATE you.” She looked up. She got the message. She needed to feel appreciated.
I ventured further. “He does not sum up who you are. You deserve appreciation for the job you are doing here even if you aren’t enjoying it. So thank you for your help and I hope you have a better day.”
Remember if someone is being less than positive and it isn’t a reflection of how you are feeling then there is much more to their remarks. THEY are the ones having a problem. You don’t have to take it personally. Usually they aren’t feeling appreciated or they aren’t enjoying life. They may not have figured out ‘happiness’ yet.
So I went up to pay for my labels and the woman who had helped me walked by. She was whispering under her breath, like a mantra, “He does not sum up who I am.”
All those negative cashiers were signs to look at them. What do they need from a positive person? Do they need me to smile or tell them wonderful things…or do they need nothing from me…or maybe…they just need to hear an encouraging word and feel appreciated.
The funny thing is I didn’t encounter any more stinkers that day. Maybe I just needed to be aware of what the Universe was showing me so that the one phrase to the one woman would help guide her on her journey…maybe…
Sometimes we just need an encouraging word, don’t you think? 
When you are feeling unloved or not worthy you are focusing on an illusion. You are cared for, encouraged, loved, and supported no matter what the appearance of your current situation may lead you to believe. The Universe/God is always there for you. Instead of wondering if you are loved…know that you are loved. You don’t need to try so hard to be deemed worthy of love. Let your own original light from within shine through. Know that you are always connected to an eternal source of love…always.
Peanut came in, plopped on the bed, and just stared at me. I was typing away on my laptop and could feel her waiting to say something. So I walked over to her and sat down next to her.
“You want to tell me something?”
She slowly nodded her head. “I just saved a life.”
“You did?”
“Yep.”
“Tell me about it.”
She sat up and smiled. “I was outside playing and I noticed a HUGE spider web.”
“Ewww…” I encouraged.
She wrinkled her nose. “Yeah! It was really big Mom! It was the size of that bottle over there.” I tried not to smile. I knew that had to be a bit of an exaggeration. She continued, “It was yellow and brown with brown streaks down its leg.”
“Oh…” I thought to myself. “She’s right. I’ve seen those around outside. They are the size of a small pill bottle.”
Peanut continued. “It crawled out of a hole toward its web and there in the web was the cutest thing I have ever seen. It was a fuzzy white moth, Mom. It had little black eyes and it was looking at me. I could hear it begging me to save it. The spider crawled with its big meanie legs toward the moth and the spider began to wrap it up.”
“Wow! So what did you do?”
“I didn’t want to hurt the spider ‘cuz it is his home but I had to save that moth. I knew that spider needed his dinner but not on my watch! He could eat something later so I took a stick and poked the spider ever so gently and he ran back in his hole.”
I was intrigued. I knew that spiders sometimes paralyze their little meals before ‘wrapping’ them up. I wondered if she truly saved the moth.
“So what did you do next?” I asked.
“I took the stick and slid it under the moth. I didn’t break the web or anything. I kept the spider’s home intact.”
My daughter, thinking about the spider’s welfare as well. What a girl…
“But the moth couldn’t move so I put my finger up to that sticky web and the moth could only use her legs but got on my finger. There was spider webbing all over her wings. I didn’t want to pull of the webbing because her wings looked so fragile.”
“What did you do?”
“I waited. Her legs worked and then she began to flap her wings a little and the webbing fell off. It felt so neat to feel her wings. It felt like a little angel flutter. She sat on my finger for a few minutes and then she flew up. She landed back on my finger ‘cuz she was wobbly but then she really flew off. I followed her to make sure she was okay.”
“Wow…you saved a life.”
She was happy. “I then went back to look at that spider. He had already caught a fly and wrapped it up like a mummy so he got to eat.”
“Good to know, Peanut. You were concerned about the spider?”
“Yeah but he still got to eat. I did what you said, Mom.”
“What do you mean?” I was racking my brain for some kind of ‘save the moth’ story I had told her. lol
“I saw something happening and I felt kind of helpless and then I listened to what my heart (she pointed to her chest) and my self inside (she pointed to her forehead) and both of them told me that the moth should be saved and that there would be a way to do it. So I relaxed and tried not to think of the ooey gooey spider and see what would be best for everything and it worked. I didn’t touch the icky-ness and only went for my good feeling which was saving that moth.” She was proud of herself and I was proud of her for using her inner skills.
I gave her a hug. “Good job!”
She sat on the edge of the bed and swung her legs. “I think I’m going to go and contemplate.”
Yeah…she used the word ‘contemplate.’ My eleven year old guru. What a crack up!
Today give yourself some compliments. Tell ‘you’ what a good job you are doing experiencing life. It is only your praise that matters…not the appreciation of others. You see the Universe is continually encouraging you but sometimes we choose not to listen. Maybe we are too busy to look up or maybe we’re not comfortable with our worth but for whatever reason remember to honor yourself and really tell yourself that you are doing the best that you can. Know that you are at this point in your life and acknowledge what you have experienced to get here. Acknowledge all the little steps that you are taking to create the life you want.
Lee, Peanut, and I went to the merchantile last night to pick up some milk and just to take a drive. When we went in, everyone said ‘hello’ as we walked the aisles. We went up to the counter and the cashier recognized Peanut.
“Hey, did you go to the school concert the other night?”
Peanut: “Concert?”
“Well…if THAT’S what you call it. The whole school was there to sing…all twenty of them!”
Peanut laughed and said, “Oh, the sing thing at the school. I did go.”
The cashier raised her eyebrow. “Well…how did YOU like it? Man…it sounded horrible.”
Peanut thought for a moment. “Did it sound bad? I didn’t notice. I just noticed how much fun they were having. It made me smile.” She picked up her bag of goodies. “Have a nice day!” Flipped her hair back, hummed a little tune, and walked out the door.
Lee and I followed.
Note to self: Listen for the positive no matter how the song is sung.
The only way it is going to work is…you have to trust. You have to trust something. Whether it is the Universe, your angels, your intuition, or life…whatever it is…you have to trust in order for life to change for the better and for what you want. Because it is in the belief that connects the dots to the road that you want. Follow your trust…even if it takes you in a whole new direction. That direction could be the best thing that ever happened for you.
When we’re working in the studio there is a huge window to the back where Dad has all of his bird feeders. He buys 100 lb. bags of bird seed & it is one of his greatest joys to watch the birds. He now has over a hundred different kinds of birds at his feeders. There are cute little yellow finches, beautiful pigeons, robin red breasts, and birds that we have no idea what they are. When you go out there to look, they all fly up into the trees and it is an amazing sight to see all those birds in flight at once. The sound of the wings flapping…
So we’re recording in the studio and we keep seeing the birds fly up into the trees. It’s happening so often that it’s distracting. Lee went out to see if maybe there was a cat looking for a treat but no cat in sight. He came back in and it started up once again.
This time I went outside and found Dad standing out there grinning up at the sky.
“What’s going on Dad?”
“I’m creating some joy.”
“What do you mean?”
“Your mother and I love the sight and the sound of the birds flying up in the trees. Watch!”
I stood perfectly still as Dad walked back in the house and left his door open a crack. The birds all came back to feed cooing and carrying on and then here he came. He swung open the door with a big smile on his face as the birds took off in flight. I could hear Mom giggling inside.
Dad was creating moments of joy for Mom. Adorable…
Each day we plant seeds within our mind. And depending on what kind of focus we give to them determines where and when and how they will grow. Is your focus coming from a doubtful mind or from a positive mind that knows it will all come together just as it should — because its in Universal hands? And as you plant those seeds within your mind and watch them grow, be sure to plant seeds with physical action as well. Be aware of opportunities presented to you that give you a chance to take physical action to help your seeds of thought bloom. I’m planting seeds today, both mentally and physically. How about you?
I love how the Universe works. For years Mom and Dad have talked about Luden’s honey and licorice throat drops. How they were the perfect candy.
Mom would say, “They were the perfect drop. That black licorice taste with the smooth honey feel and they even stopped me from feeling hungry. All in one hard little candy. I remember when…” She couldn’t understand why they would stop making them so I have been looking for them for over the last few years. I’ve bought all kinds of candies that might fit the bill but none of them came close to what they remember.
It’s the first thing I do when I go into any store. I head over to the cough drops and look. Always cherry or honey-lemon but yet to find the black licorice-honey blend. I would close my eyes, see them there, and then let the Universe do the rest. That was my approach.
Yesterday I slipped into a little drugstore to buy some candy for the movies. Everyone had gone to the ‘big’ grocery store up the street but something in me wanted to take a walk so I walked with Janet down to this little drugstore.
It was a great little store. It had the feel of an old merchantile with items that felt like they came from the ‘old days.’ I found my Flicks and did my usual walk to the cough drops and there sitting in the box I remember ‘Luden’s black licorice-honey throat drops.’ I actually jumped for joy. To see the joy in Dad and Mom’s face was what I was looking forward to. I bought all of the packages and asked if they could order more. The clerk (who owned the store) said, “I sure can. They’ve decided to make these yummy drops once again!”
I couldn’t wait to get them home and see their faces.
I walked in their room and handed the brown paper bag to Mom.
“I found something for you and Dad, Mom.”
“Oh, how many times do I have to tell you, Bethie. You don’t have to buy us presents when you go out.” She peeked in the bag and yes…she actually cried.
“What is it?” Dad asked.
She dumped the bag on her bed. “Bethie, you have no idea what this means to me. I asked for a sign from my mom today. I haven’t dreamed about her or anything. I just wanted to know she was still with me and…” she pointed to the drops. “THIS was my sign. My mommy used to buy me these when I was young and THAT is why I love them so much!”
She gave me a big hug.
I had no idea what a little throat drop could do. It doesn’t matter how small or big the manifestation of a desire. Keep the focus, know it will happen, and let it…
The Universe provided a wonderful manifestation of a little cough drop for me, for Dad and Mom, and for my passed on Grandma.
Orchestrated perfectly, Universe.
Find the ‘you’ within. That ‘you’ shows its light through happiness, love, and joy. Let yourself shine and be you. Don’t create some image of what you want to be because of what ‘normal’ may be. When you free yourself of the fear of what others may think, and be who you truly are, others who appreciate the real you will come into your life.
I actually remember the last time I was concerned about what someone might think. It was many years ago. I was at a family reunion and everyone was sitting around talking. Auntie asked me about what I do for a living. I explained that I was following my heart and starting a positive thought book with my husband, Lee. She looked at me and said, “Well sweetheart. We all think positive but do you really think that you can make money at that? You’re so young. You’ll find that listening to your heart isn’t always the best money maker.”
Hmmm…I was concerned. Should I have not said anything? Should I not follow my heart? Here I was about to embark on a journey that i was sure was my path and I could ‘feel’ it was it. But…I mean she was my aunt and seemed to know…I… and then my little grandma piped in. (the one that is a little eccentric and would beat to her own drum) “Bethie, look at Auntie. Does she look happy?” I nodded yes. “Do you think she followed her heart?”
I wasn’t sure.
My Auntie said, “I followed what I thought was best for me.”
Then Grandma said, “Do you trust Bethie?”
Auntie smiled. “Of course I do. She’s just young…”
Grandma looked at me. “Are you going to follow Auntie’s heart of what she thinks is best for you or are you going to follow your own heart? Because I think YOU know what’s best for you and that is listening to your own heart.”
Auntie didn’t say a thing and I realized, at that very moment, to always follow MY heart. To let others be as they are but they couldn’t possibly know who I was unless they had walked in my shoes and thought through my mind. I was free to ‘be’ as I wanted to be. It began the journey for ‘A Grateful Life, Living the Law of Attraction’ book.
Grandma was a wise little owl and could cook a mean pot of chili but she always taught me to beat to my own drum and others will follow…
You have many paths to get to your goal and depending on where you put your focus you have many road signs indicating which way to go. When we begin to visualize what we desire in our life we, also bring along our vibrations and how we ‘feel’ throughout the day. The more fine tuned we get with our daily routine vibrations, the more we are able to choose the way we get to what we envision.
We begin with a pure thought vibration of what we want. This goes out into the Universe and the Universe begins putting together the vibrations from our physical world in the exact manner you have sent out your energy. If you kept that clear pure focus with no doubt or fear then the paths to ‘how’ you get your manifestation comes in a much easier form. It is when we begin to take that focus and then build negative feelings of other things through our day that can cause so many more different possibilities of ‘how’ we manifest what we desire.
Leave it to the Universe. Let the ‘how’ come about naturally and easily. The Universe can bring you so many unconventional as well as conventional ways of manifestation as long as you keep your control vibrations out of the picture.
Lee and I had a speaking engagement yesterday and heard a wonderful story from an older man.
He explained that he had been using the LOA in his life for over twenty years and the one thing he learned was to ‘let go’ and let it all come rolling in! He said he tried and tried to figure out ‘how’ it was going to come to him yet he realized he was hanging on so tight that his desire of that property, he had his eyes on, was being pushed away by his own attachment.
He said that he drove by the property daily and visualized it being his. He walked every step of that piece of property and ‘just knew’ it would be his. But he said the whole time he ‘just knew,’ he kept the thought so tight to his chest that it built an attachment of “I HAVE to have it” and that caused him to begin to obsess about it.
One day he drove by and there was a sold sign on the property. He sat and cried and felt the Universe had really done him wrong. Then he ‘bucked up’ and drove home and at that point…he let go. He realized that maybe, just maybe, the Universe knew what it was doing. Maybe there was something better. So he kept driving by, kept visualizing, and kept letting go.
The house on the property was being renovated and he watched. He stopped by one day to see a man out front fixing up the place. He got out of his car and struck up a conversation. The man told him he bought the property because he saw some value in it and decided to fix up the place and then…lease the property.
Not only was the property going to be for rent which he could afford but with a beautiful home all renovated.
Did he rent the place? He did and he is living in it to this day. And not only that, he is now making payments to his landlord to buy the place.
There are many paths and the Universe is taking care of which every one you pick.
Expect and trust that every need and want will be taken care of. Expect and trust that every problem has an answer for you. Expect and trust that abundance is yours in every area of your life. Begin by raising your thought consciousness and you will see that many things will leave your life and you’ll be amazed at what will enter it just as quickly. Living in unlimited thought and possibilities is the only way to ‘be’.
Peanut and Grandpa had their heads together this morning….hmmmm…
Lee and I are heading out to a Law of Attraction speaking engagement on the coast so Peanut is ‘babysitting’ Grandma and Grandpa but it looks to me like there is some planning going on.
I see Peanut writing a list and Grandpa dictating what to do but every time I come close they look up and Grandpa turns his head away and whistles. But I do see Grandma watching them both like a hawk which tells me that she will have it all under control.
It’s so much fun to see Peanut and Grandpa ‘scheming.’ They are like two peas in a pod. I believe he’d climb trees with her if he could. I’m sure whatever they are ‘scheming’ will be full of fun, joy, and love for both of them.
Grandpa asked Grandma if she had any triple A batteries and scotch tape….oh boy. I can’t wait to see what manifests out of those two minds with batteries and scotch tape.
Sometimes it may feel as if there are ‘bumps’ along your journey. Those ‘bumps’ could be providing feedback to you about what is going on in your life. You don’t need to be upset or frustrated with those ‘bumps,’ but just observe ‘why’ they may be there and then keep moving forward. Realize they are there to help you with the direction to go. Instead of shouting to the heavens, “Why me?!” shout out “Thank you! Another road sign on which way to go.” The bumps can be tools to guide you in a particular direction based on what you focus on in your life. Maybe they are there to help you side step an issue or to help you look right at it; to finally get rid of it. And maybe it has been put there by the Universe to tell you ‘let’s get past this’ or ‘let’s try something different.’ Embrace the ‘bumps’ as they are road signs to where you are wanting to go.
A few years back, Lee and I wanted to move to Oregon. We made the decision, visualized each day, and kept enjoying the life we were leading at the time. Periodically we would come up to Oregon and look for the perfect town, the perfect house, and envision being aware of all opportunities. We had decided on a town that was almost on the border of Washington. Lee and I had gone there when we were children and looked forward to actually looking for a home there.
When we arrived (after making many pit stops at Dairy Queen for ice cream…hey! We discovered Dairy Queen in every town in Oregon so we got excited!) the town we remembered as children was not the town we saw. It had gone downhill and didn’t ‘feel’ friendly. We went through the motions looking at homes but we knew this was not the place. We were a bit disappointed but we both knew that we were being told to go where it ‘felt’ right. We were given this little ‘bump’ to follow the road signs.
So we bought some trinkets and yet another Georgia Mud Fudge blizzard at Dairy Queen and headed down the coast. There was a detour on the road that took us way out of the way of where we wanted to go so as this little ‘bump’ came up…we followed. We ended up in the middle of Oregon at a beautiful out of the way little town and there was this unbelievable home sitting on the river that was being built. We went in, fell in love with it, and put down a huge down payment. Thank you Universe! But the story doesn’t end here.
We got home and began to pack. We had a good three months before we could close everything up and in that three months something happened. The deal for the house went bad, the money for the down payment had been lost, and we were wondering where were we going to live. Where did this very big ‘bump’ in the road come from?! So we took an impromptu trip up to Oregon trying to keep our heads about us. Money is just money but we thought for sure it was the perfect place. What could possibly be any more perfect than that and now….another ‘bump!’
We were in our hotel and Lee grabbed the local paper. There was a home for rent and he said to me, “Babe maybe we should be up here first so we have more time to look.” It somehow ‘felt’ right so we called the number for a little house out in the middle of nowhere to rent. We loved the house, the property, and we had one neighbor who had a little girl that was the same age as Peanut. The little girl had only brothers and wanted so badly to have a little girl her age to play with. So Peanut fit the bill and we moved in. We loved it there but the tug was still in our hearts…to find that perfect place for us.
We had given it over to the Universe and knew the timing and the roadsigns would be there. One day (two years later to be exact) Lee opened up the paper and there it was…the house we had both envisioned. We immediately piled everyone in the car and took the forty minute drive. The property was on twenty six acres of beauty and the house…was the house!
I am writing at this very moment from this wonderful place we call home. It is even better than I expected. All the little ‘bumps’ led us here. It takes a little patience, an open mind to ‘see’ where you are headed, and trust that your end result is there for you…in the time that it should be.
Those ‘bumps’ led Lee and I to where we wanted to be. And instead of worrying and freaking out that there were obstacles, we used those obstacles as guides and lessons. Lessons of patience, focus, and trust. To help us to be led in a certain direction and…here we are!
Side note about the home we lost the down payment on. It had been an unusual year for rain and the river had come up and flooded the property. If we had been living there we would have been flooded out. Did the Universe know? wink wink
Isn’t it amazing how our day can sometimes be dictated by how we start it out? Can you imagine what would happen if we consciously decided that no matter what happens…it WILL be a good positive day? After you stub that toe or step in the cat ‘stuff’, you just decide that it is going to be a wonderful day AND mean it? That means we have a choice in how the day will go…wow… Now let me go wash off my foot and I’ll feel soooooooo much better! It’s going to be a wonderful day.
Mom to Dad: Could you please use your handkerchief when you blow your nose?’
Dad smiles and sings, “Do you love me?”
Mom: Yes, I love you…now would you please stop fiddling with the fruit bowl? People eat that you know!”
Dad smiles and sings, “Do you love me?”
Mom softens. “Yes, I love you. “ She looks at Dad, “Am I a nag?”
Dad thinks about it and decides not to reply. Dad smiles and sings, “Do you love me?”
Good answer, Dad!
Mom gave him a little nudge and sang back, “Yes, I love you…”
How can two little elderly people, just living life, create such joy in my life? I am blessed…
It’s up to you. It is your choice to feel hurt by someone, or a situation. When you step aside from the ‘ego’ mind and realize you don’t have to accept what is being said into your own thoughts…you’ve made a choice. The hurt feelings are a result of your decision to feel that way. You are able to change your own reaction to others, and once you do…it will get a whole lot easier.
Lee and I get many e-mails asking questions about the Law of Attraction and how to apply it in certain situations in life. Most are wonderful but everyone once in a great while we get the e-mail that is a bit sarcastic and confrontational.
An e-mail came in and read, “This is directed to Beth. You act like such positive person. No one can be that positive. That is a bunch of bull. So my question to you is…let’s say you lived in Hell. What could possibly be positive about that?”
Wow…no signature…just meanness. Now usually we just click ‘delete’ and go about our day. Just an opinion, just someone who doesn’t understand who I am, and is living his/her life in their own way. But for some reason I didn’t delete. I did write back and this is what I said.
“I do see the positive in everything. I shift my focus to what is positive about a situation so here goes my answer to your thought provoking question.
What could I possibly find positive living in hell? I’d get a nice tan, roast a few marshmallows, and sit around the fire singing camp songs! Hey, maybe some of my positivity would rub off on a few people. You never know?!” Signed, positively Beth.
Lee laughed and laughed. He said that answer should be hung on the studio wall. “Only you could see the positive in that kind of situation.”
Hee hee…well you know…:)
Make the decision to react in the positive. But make sure that reaction is genuine. No fake smile and seething inside. Just realize that we are all creating our own life and you can always see the positive in a situation…always.
Just think…if we could live life not grieving our past and not worrying about what the future holds and live in the present moment. We’d be fully aware of enjoying each moment and ‘being”; we’d feel a whole lot freer within and not chained down by thoughts that are counterproductive. Let’s not anticipate trouble but live in the moment where all is well as we look forward to each moment as it comes. How freeing that can be!
Dad came toddlin’ in this morning looking a bit grumpy. He hadn’t shaved and hadn’t brushed his few white hairs left on his head. We said good morning…and he grunted.
Peanut went out and got the newspaper for him. He grunted ‘thank you’ and started reading the paper. The rest of us were carrying on laughing and talking.
He decides to grumble aloud. “You know…I feel like an outsider.” We all went quiet to listen. “I feel like I can’t hear any of you cuz of my hearing, I can’t walk to get the paper, and here you all are laughing and carrying on. Can’t you tell I’m feeling a bit down? A little peace and quiet would be nice.”
We were quiet and then it hit me….the giggles. I got to laughing and then set off Lee. Mom started up and Peanut and my oldest daughter began to giggle. We weren’t laughing at him. It was just that he wanted everyone to be upset because he was.
And then it hit me that he said he couldn’t hear us yet he was asking us to be quiet and it sent me into the laugh that you can’t breathe.
“I get no respect!” Dad says indignantly.
Mom looks at him and handles it the best way she knows how. “Oh…you big baby! We’re not going to be upset just cause you’re feeling sorry for yourself.”
He shakes his head and opens up the paper. His shoulders start shaking and he begins to laugh. “Well that’s it! It’s time to just check out!” He hands the paper to Lee.
Dad went to look at the comics and his favorite is Garfield but the comic he can’t stand is Cathy. The title of the Garfield comic was there all right but there had been a mix up at the paper printer because under Garfield’s name was a Cathy cartoon. No Garfield for him…
Dad started that deep bass belly laugh. His eyes were streaming with tears at the Universal joke for him. That comic reflected how Dad was feeling and he knew it.
Through his laughter he got out the words, “A man can’t even feel sorry for himself ’round here! I love you all!”
Happiness can be contagious…don’t you think? Especially when you have a wise cracking family that encourages to let loose and laugh and not take life problems so seriously.
Can you think of someone who seems to have it better than you? Do you compare yourself and say, “Oh…I wish I had THAT life!” Something we can seem to forget is that there are many others looking at you and doing the same thing wanting what you have and feeling envious. So just remember to be grateful for what you have right now and when you see something you want that someone else has, there’s no reason to be jealous or envious. You can have a life just like them. But make it YOUR life…not theirs. The Universe will be happy to oblige minus any attachments to envy.
I have a sister. She is the oldest of the siblings. She and I go waaaaaaay back. We’ve always loved one another but let’s just say we have a lot between us that we learn and grow through. I’ve learned over the years to ‘allow’ all that she is and does but not to ‘buy into’ any of her shenanigans.
This is usually how a conversation goes.
“Hello, Beth?”
“Hi, how are you doing?”
“I don’t want to say. Everything is always so messed up.”
Silence on my end because I have come to realize that until she changes her way of seeing the world that nothing will change for her and her chaotic lifestyle. I think to myself, “She’s creating…let her be.” And then I silently thank the Universe for my life.
“How are the kids, Sis?”
“Everything is terrible. One just got a divorce and he’s miserable! And the other two are having so many problems.”
You see, over and over again I have offered my love and thoughts saying things like, “Things will get better” or giving her some kind of advice that could help her along but the thoughts fall upon deaf ears.
“Well…I love you, Sis.”
“Yeah…I know. So what are you doing today?”
Uh oh. Going into that territory. When I mention how wonderful life is and what Lee and I are doing, I can actually feel the green ooze coming from the phone. You know the one….jealousy with a whole lot of envy. I choose to stay neutral.
“Oh Lee and I are working as usual. Taking Dad to the doctor tomorrow.”
Oops…THAT is a sore subject…ugh! Here it comes…
“Oh. Taking DAD to the doctor. I wanted them to live with me, you know. But it just didn’t work out that way, did it? I wish I could be around Mom and Dad everyday like YOU.”
Time to go within and stay balanced. Yes, I have visualized my sis and I to have a wonderful conversation but I do realize that when visualizing for someone else that it will only happen if they are ready within their own vibration.
My mind used to go to, “Right…like YOU could ever take care of Mom and Dad. You can’t even take care of yourself.” But over time I realized not to ‘buy into’ her world of blame, guilt, fear, pity,and jealousy. Nothing good ever comes from it.
I divert her comment. “How’s your weather?”
“It’s sooooooooooooooo hot. I can hardly stand it. What’s it doing there, Beth?”
“It’s just beautiful.”
“Oh…that’s right. You’re in paradise. You’re living in a beautiful world. I want that.” There’s that green ooze again.
“So why did you call, Sis?”
“We’re having so many money problems and I want to talk to Mom.”
Okay…that’s when I use ‘why’ I live with Mom and Dad. Not only to love them but to protect them.
“Do not ask them for money. Dad has nothing. You’re going to have to find it elsewhere.”
My sister and I go way back with this one. There was a time we (Mom and Dad as well) helped her with money. But I truly believe in teaching someone ‘how’ to live not just supplementing the need.
“How about…” she starts.
“Not anymore, Sis. I love you but there is nothing here in the way of money for you here.”
Do you know how hard it can be to tell your own family that they can’t have something? I am a giving person but I have learned over the years how to create the life I want and I keep the chaos away.
“Guess the conversation is over then,” she says.
“I guess it is. I love you…”
“Yeah…I know. I got to get off the phone. I have to call my sister in law.”
Envy, jealousy, chaos only brings more of the same. I’ve learned to temper my reactions, learn the lesson, and appreciate all that is in my life. Yes, even my sister. She’s creating, she’s living, she’s ‘being’ the way she sees fit and I learn so much from her about what I want and don’t want in my life.
So what do I do after I get off the phone? I send her love and joy within my thoughts and thank the Universe for my children, my husband, my parents, my life, my house, my joy, my….!!!!!!!
When pure vibrations flow through an idea that is based in our material universe the vibrations take the form of the idea. It is always possible for all those vibrations that others may be having (shortages of some kind, having lack, limitations) to affect your original idea manifestation, but only if you focus on those vibrations along with your idea. But when you really come from the pure clear vibration that it is already there for you, and it is full of abundance with no worry as to when, where, or why…just knowing this you’ll see that every vibration will manifest an abundant supply for you. Find the true inner concept of abundance for all…that pure vibration that the Universe is sending to you. Know it is there and don’t let the vibrations of others mingle with your pure vibrational ideas.
Do you know that my parents still hold hands? Mom makes a big joke about it. She says its not because they want to hold hands but because they’re holding each other up in their old age. But I know better.
As long as I can remember Mom and Dad have always held hands. Even after a big argument about nothing…they would still hold hands.
Even when they were going through normal marriage growth, they still held hands.
They have always kept a pure stream of a loving vibration in their relationship no matter what they may face or enjoy.
I believe that part of the success of their sixty years of marriage is…they still hold hands.
Lee and I are carrying on the tradition. Just the other day we were walking into a restaurant and a woman behind us commented, “It’s so wonderful to see a couple holding hands!”
Lee and I looked at each other and I said, “We hold hands because we’re holding each other up in our old age!”
Lee and I laughed and the woman didn’t understand but we did…we truly are holding each other up to a higher level of joy…through that pure vibration of love.
Giving feedback and encouragement is important for any kind of changes being made in life. Receiving feedback that is asked for and listening to feedback could have the answer you are looking for. Give encouragement to others and take within your own heart inspiration and encouragement from others. By making this exchange, changes will begin in your life and depending on what kind of feedback and encouragement you give…it will be a positive or negative change.
Remember when giving feedback to someone else, treat them like you would like to be treated. Handle your thoughts through love and understanding and not from a critical eye. That’s how you would like it…right?
I’m up early this morning to have my coffee and get ready before taking Dad to the doctor. He has another little foot problem and we’re making sure he gets in so that it doesn’t go where it did before. He’s in great spirits and looking forward to the drive in town.
“Hey, Bethie. Wanna make me one of those coffees for the road? I’m gonna need it if they’re going to be poking and prodding at me.” It’s good to see him in such a good mood this morning and accepting the fact that it is much easier if I drive him.
Mom is all dolled up with her many rings and her very shiny necklace. She’s wearing her cute little pink clogs and has teased out her hair.
I love how much they love me and I appreciate everything they have done (and do) in my life. A day doesn’t go by without us telling one another how much we appreciate and love one another.
I am grateful for who they are, where they came from, and where they are going in their lives. It could be another way…we could be barking at each other and complaining about each others annoying habits but you know what? WHY? Why not ‘be’ from the place within that shows the love we have for each other.
Now…time to take a drive and roll down the window a little…Dad’s Groom ‘n’ Clean kind of makes me gag. LOL
You will always have a relationship with something in life. With everything that you see or are a part of, you are having some kind of relation with. In order to figure out what you like and don’t like in your life you need contrast. You need to be able to compare. If we didn’t have contrast we wouldn’t be able to understand what to focus on. By having some kind of relationship with everything in our world we are able to focus on what we like and don’t like. This is how we understand and expand our consciousness. This is how we create and experience. Having relationships are necessary to existing as a spiritual being in a physical body.
I remember the days of being a young girl just like Peanut. Just around that age seems to be the time where children begin to recognize the difference in their likes and dislikes when it comes to their friends.
Let me tell you a little bit about Peanut. Peanut is definitely a ‘free spirit.’ She enjoys writing, painting, a book full of all kinds of fantasy and possibilities, has an amazing gift with animals, a wonderful student, and accepts her friends for who they are. Yes, I LOVE my little sweetheart and I may sound a bit bias but this can be a rare find in an eleven year…not choosing which friend is ‘better’ especially when all her friends around her are upset and angry with one another. It’s usually out of a child jealousy, feeling insecure, maybe ‘just that age,’ but they begin to ‘see’ what they like and don’t like in relationships.
Peanut knows not to have certain friends over together and she ‘allows’ it. She doesn’t want to spend her day being a mediator. She wants to enjoy each friend without all the drama.
She has all kinds of friends. One who loves to run and play, one who loves to sit in the forest and talk about fairies and mermaids, one who loves to sit at the table and just talk, yet each is so unique in how they view life but they not able to see that everything that each does and says is perfectly fine and good.
Being eleven and twelve is quite a time in life, isn’t it? I am so grateful that Peanut is already able to distinguish between what she enjoys and doesn’t enjoy and makes sure all her wonderful friends know it. She doesn’t worry about what they are going to think about her. She’s figuring out that we are all who we are and that’s okay as long as they don’t ‘hurt’ her in some way. She knows if that happens, she talks with them and lets them know and if that doesn’t work…she moves on. She knows all about contrast and what works for her.
Peanut with her beautiful long wavy blond hair and that dreamy look in her eyes is a ‘one of a kind’ just like you and me. And I am grateful that she is recognizing at such an early age about contrast and ‘allowing’ others to be as they are.
So…can you tell I adore my daughter?!
When you are feeling impatient, you are slowing down the manifestation. When you are patient knowing all will come and stay joyful, you speed up the process of manifestation. When you are patient you are confident knowing that what you wanted to manifest will come in the exact time it should. Patience is using your faith energy and when you have faith the Universe knows you know.
Yesterday morning Dad walked into the kitchen and sat down. He definitely was not himself. He’s been kind of moping around since he’s unable to garden and the upside down tomatoes just aren’t enough for him. But this mood was a little different.
“I’m tired of doctors and I’m tired of them telling me what to do. I don’t even know why I’m here now.”
Hmmm…think about that. Here you are 82 years old, you’ve been told you can’t do anything, and you have to sit like a little couch potato all day long.
I thought about it for a moment. I could go into how he has the freedom of his mind and how he isn’t truly ‘grounded’ but it wasn’t right for that moment and for Dad.
“Dad…do you know what it is like every morning for me? I get ready and then I walk into the kitchen to see two of my favorite people sitting here. I LOVE seeing you every morning. Peanut brings you a guinea pig and sits by YOU. Have you ever looked at the joy in her face when she sees you? We LOVE having you here. We LOVE seeing you every morning and listen to your wonderful stories. We LOVE you. I LOVE YOU. So if you’re not sure why you’re even here…you provide so much love just sitting there for all of us. Dad…you are needed.”
He looked at me with his loving blue eyes and said, “You’ve always been my favorite, Bethie.” Yeah, I’ve heard that one before. Me and ALL my siblings! lol
He smiled and patted my arm. “You always know just what to say to pull your old crotchety dad out of the doldrums.” Then he added, “Next show will be at 11:00am.”
“What do you mean, Dad?”
“That’s when I’ll be back for lunch. You can come in and ‘get a load of me’ then too.”
What a guy!
Do you really believe that you can have anything you want? Is what you want so huge that you can’t conceivably believe that you can have it, even if you visualize day after day? If your core belief is that you don’t really believe it will come then it won’t. You are the one responsible for bringing a thought or an idea into physical manifestation. And you have to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that it is possible. It doesn’t matter how big or small it is. Thoughts are all the same size when it comes to the Universe. It’s only in your own belief of what can or can’t happen that will cause it to manifest. The Universe is unlimited, just like your thoughts.
We spend so much time with our family pets. Each one has a different personality and they bring such joy to our home.
Sophie, our little pregnant guinea pig is no exception. She coos and purrs and brings wonderful positive vibrations into our home. But Sophie is very lucky because she has Watson. Watson is our male guinea pig and I am thrilled that Peanut is able to witness and observe the guinea pig culture. They’re positive memories she is building within her own mind. She has many wonderful positive male family members in our home. Lee is a loving dad and her grandpa always has the time to be with her. But Watson…he is showing her that even guinea pigs take care of one another. They have a sense of joy and love.
When Peanut gets up in the morning, her first ‘chore’ is to feed the animals. She takes care of Donkey and Blondie and then goes upstairs to take care of Watson and Sophie. Watson is always standing in front of the door waiting to be picked up while Sophie is in her little ‘house’ nesting. When we put the little ‘house’ in their cage it was Watson who set up the nest. He dragged pink fluff and bedding in…for Sophie. He was busily taking hay and carrots putting them in a spot…for Sophie. Once he had the ‘house’ all set he began to ‘coo’ to her and she went inside, gave him a nudge to say ‘thank you,’ and then purred and curled up in the nest. He stood at the front of the little house to take care of, you guessed it…Sophie. He knows she’s pregnant and he knows, “This is what I’m supposed to do.” Peanut is learning through family AND her pets how important it is to love and care for one another.
It’s not one sided at all. Sophie makes sure Watson is groomed and you can literally see the joy when they see one another. They jump straight up in the air over and over again.
When we took Sophie to the vet yesterday, we found out how ‘hands on’ the male guinea pig is when the babies are born. He helps her deliver by making sure each baby is okay, he takes the babies for walks along with Sophie. He will be a ‘hands on’ Daddy.
Sure there are some guinea pigs that don’t have that natural ability but there are some humans that don’t possess it as well. But everyone has the need to be loved and isn’t it amazing how natural Watson’s love for Sophie is?
Our pets are a wonderful source of unconditional love and joy but they provide so much more than that. They are showing Peanut how important it is to care and love one another without any motive, without any baggage but just to ‘be’ and let it naturally flow.
Who knew two little ‘fluffs’ could give us so much to think about?:)
You may not understand why things happen the way they do but if you trust in the process and keep going in life, the negative aspects will eventually lead to beautiful and positive aspects. Just keep moving forward and know the Universe is right there walking beside you and helping you to a better life…of course…if that is what you focus on.
Mom came into the laundry room this morning talking under her breath. “Hey, Mom. You doing okay? How did you sleep?” She looked at me and said, “Your father is a stubborn man.” Uh oh…
Apparently Mom did laundry yesterday and accidentally left a red blouse in the washer when she washed Dad’s unmentionables. Yes he has all pink undershirts and underwear.
“He won’t put them on,” Mom said in a huff. “He said he’d wear any color but pink. He’s free flying today.” More info than I needed.
“Just buy him new underwear,” I suggested.
“He won’t do it! He doesn’t want to spend the money.”
“I’ll get it for him, Mom.” I will admit…I was kind of pleading.
“He won’t let you, Bethie. You know how he is.” She thought for a moment. “I know what I’m going to do,” she said. “I’ll go pick up some Rit dye. Maybe green or something.”
Hmmm…maybe I’ll buy him some tidy whities for Father’s Day. When it’s a gift he has to accept them but until then looks like my dad will be wearing leprechaun underwear.
He’ll wear leprechaun underwear but he won’t wear pink…go figure.
Note to self: Trust the process…:)
When you have faith it is the link between heaven and earth. This powerful living vibration is what will penetrate into the depths of your own consciousness and remove any kind of fear and disbelief. It is you that must find that faith ‘within.’ It is the energy of faith that makes all things possible. When you are able to envision what you want and have the faith that the Universe is bringing it to you, no matter what the outer picture might show right now, there is no other way but to have what you have envisioned. Keep the faith.
My dad and I were talking about his great grandma. She was a little teeny thing and was definitely full of it. They called her ‘Little Grandma.’:) After she married Great Grandpa, they had one little baby. (Who would grow up to be my dad’s dad) Little Grandma wanted to live in California. That was her dream but they couldn’t afford to make the move. Great Grandpa had a good job and those were hard to find at the time. But within Little Grandma’s mind she dreamed of the coast and the warmer weather.
When the baby was two months old, Great Grandpa became very sick. He began wheezing (most likely from all the lumber dust he worked around) and could no longer work. It was now up to Little Grandma to make all the decisions and figure out ‘how to live.’ Her dream was still alive. Always keeping the faith.
She sold off all their belongings and hooked up the wagon and began the trek to California with a sick husband laying in the back of the wagon with a now four month old baby. She didn’t know how they were going to eat or survive along the way but she kept her picture in her mind of where she was going.
The trip to California wasn’t the easiest of trips but she hummed and sang to the baby and to her husband as she would stop from town to town looking for some kind of temporary work to take them a little closer to her vision. She hand sewed, dug graves, helped the elderly, cooked, all along the way…and still kept that vision within her mind knowing that the Universe would get them there.
She encountered many types of people on the then isolated roads. Some kind, some wanting everything she had but she always made it through. Back then some of the people that lived in teepees and fished out of the river would take from the travelers that were migrating to the Golden State but Little Grandma hadn’t experienced that. They helped her, gave her fish, showed her the best way to get there, and packing her up with blankets, jerky, sweet milk for the baby, and herbs for her sick husband. The chief told her, “I like your spirit, Little One. You have the spirit of the Gods within you.”
Did she get there? You bet she did. She settled on the lower end of California and her husband lived a few more years. The coastal weather seemed to be the best thing for his lungs and that is why my family ended up in California.
One little wisp of a woman with a dream that she never let die within her. No matter how hard life seem to get she just knew that the Universe would provide all along the way until her vision manifested.
Faith…a living entity that sits within us all.
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